As universal as they are, the frustration of the “Why” questions is that most of them will never be answered this side of heaven. We don’t ask those questions lightly, and we really do expect answers. But they just don’t come.
When you start asking the “How” questions, that will be a good sign that you are making good progress. How questions spark action, rather than mere contemplation. They invite help from God and from others.
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