How Can I Help My Husband? (Contributing to Your Husband’s Healing Environment)
Don’t neglect your own needs
When you take care of yourself properly, you are actually helping your husband as well.
Isolation: Don’t let yourself get isolated. You may have to contend with the symptom of self-isolating yourself. If you lose all of the vital avenues of support that you need to keep yourself physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually healthy, you will soon be of no use to your husband. We are herd animals. We are a cell within a body of cells. We are redwood trees in a stand. We need each other.
Set some goals: The drive to accomplish something is a healthy drive – unless it gets out of balance. People dealing with anxiety disorders often lost that drive, and they drift aimlessly for months or years. If you allow your husband’s difficulties to keep you from setting and achieving worthy goals, it could lead to bitterness on your part and a severe strain in your relationship with your husband. Ask God to give you a goal that you could start pursuing today.
Pray for endurance: Endurance is a key characteristic, and one that is very appropriate for a woman married to a Combat Trauma sufferer to desire. It’s not the drama and intensity of your husband’s condition that would normally lead to the end of your marriage. It’s the duration of the condition. Ask God to give you endurance, so that you can be there as long as it takes for your husband, your children, and yourself to experience His healing.