Expect the unexpected, repeats de Blecourt. “You’ve dreamed of your child since you first thought of adopting. Your child may or may not have ever thought about a Mama or Papa of their very own. They know the people working around them. They know their smells, sounds, voice and touch. They won’t know you. You may smell funny or different to them. They may not know your language or perhaps the accent is different. Consistency is key. Try to look the same to them everything you get to visit with them. Avoid perfumes. Develop eye contact with your child as soon as possible. Allow them to come to you on their own terms. Allow their trust to build.”