Go to Church Less? If your faith is an important part of your life, then you will have set aside time to strengthen that faith in the context of Believers assembling themselves together to worship, be taught, and use their gifts for building each other up. But churches never “fixed” anyone, and certainly not anyone’s marriage or family; God is the one who redeems and restores. The Church is just a group of people who are in this process, telling each other of God’s faithfulness, and encouraging each other to continue on in the faith. It’s amazing to me how easily we forget this. I encourage couples that they don’t go to church so their spouse can be fixed, but they go to grow themselves. If you find yourself listening to sermons and saying “I’m so glad my husband/wife is here to hear that!” then you’re not in church for the right reason. Go for yourself. The next step is to decide to serve, and then figure out where, how, whom and when to serve. But the expectation that the church is going to be the family you never had or that the pastor will always be there for you is unrealistic. Remember, churches don’t change people, and that includes spouses and children. God changes people, churches don’t.
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