5. Do they pray? The older we get, the more it seems we need to pray. Our circle of influence widens. People ask us to pray for them. The task of being married requires daily prayer—we pray about how to love each other, for the strength to serve unselfishly, and for wisdom for many decisions. Few couples married for several years have sex every day—but every thoughtful Christian will pray every day, so put “prayer aptitude” at least as high as sexual chemistry in your list of what matters in a potential spouse. Being married to an active pray-er is a true blessing. By the way, a quick test to know how often someone prays is simply listening to what they talk about. Do they ever share what God is challenging them with? If they’re not regularly talking about God, they’re not regularly talking to God. If he/she never shares anything about their devotional times, that’s a good sign that they don’t really have significant devotional times.
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