10 Questions to Ask Before You Say “I Do”
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9. Are they a giver or a taker? The sad reality is, some people are givers and some people are takers. Givers don’t always mind being in a relationship with a taker because they like to give; it brings them joy. But marriage is a long journey and there will eventually be seasons when the giver needs to receive. In those instances, can your taker learn to give? In most cases, sadly, the answer is no. When a taker has to give, he feels sorry for himself even more than he feels empathy for you. “Ask yourself, when you spend time with your partner, do you feel drained or invigorated?” suggests Gary Thomas, author of The Sacred Search Study Resource DVD. “Would you describe the relationship as healing and supportive, or exhausting and combative?”