What Good Are Godparents?
After a child's baptism, where, oh where do the godparents go?U.S. Catholic Magazine.
Catholics know godmothers and godfathers are neither grantors of all our wishes nor organized-crime bosses, Disney and Hollywood depictions notwithstanding. But the role of godparents has gotten a little muddy in recent generations. Too often they are mere liturgical accessories on a child's Baptism day, according to a survey of U.S. Catholic readers and Web site visitors. That's a shame, because the godparent relationship can be one of spiritual support, encouragement, and mentoring--not to mention friendship.
"I find the meaning of this relationship to be mostly forgotten today, and that's too bad," says Donald Williams of Calistoga, Calif. "For me, it was important that there was somebody outside my immediate family who had a special concern for me."
Several survey respondents told glowing stories about how important their godparents had been in their lives and in their spiritual development. But the majority lamented that they had little or no relationship with the people who had served as special witnesses at their baptism. A sizeable number said they didn't even know who their godparents were.
More than half said they thought that godparents were little more than ceremonial participants at a baptism. More indicting was the tiny number (only 3%) who believed godparents make a real effort to participate in the child's religious upbringing--which is, after all, what godparents pledge to do.
Both parents and societal influences--such as increased mobility--share the blame, readers say. Although godparents should try to be more than just annual gift-givers, it's also true that parents often fail to choose their child's godparents wisely, opting instead to placate family members or to honor friends--people who may or may not have much religious commitment.
What to look for
A godparent should be a person of deep faith, prayer, and spirituality, according to a consensus of readers. A large number also cited the importance of being an active Catholic, though others put the ability to "walk the talk" above institutional commitment.
Other desirable qualities for godparents include a sincere interest in the child, good listening skills, nonjudgmental acceptance, stability, high moral character, and a capacity for being a role model. It helps if they have a good understanding of the sacrament of baptism.
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