What kids hear you say has a profound effect on how they feel about themselves--and how they experience the world
BY: Mimi Doe
"We are born with the power of the universe on the tip of our tongues." --Anonymous
We have access to such a simple yet powerful tool to affect the way we and our children experience our lives: our words. We can create a deeper sense of balance and harmony with children by being conscious of our speech. Think of the old adage, "Be careful what you wish for; it just might come true" reworked as "Be careful what you say, for it will come true." If you want a frenetic pace, keep talking about how frantic you are. If, instead, you want a dose of serenity and calm, speak of yourself as being peaceful and getting things done with ease. To create happier events in your life, think and speak positively. Take the high road with your words and remind your kids to do the same.
Author and teacher Jack Kornfield said, "Words have the power to destroy or heal. When words are both true and kind they can change the world." Here are some ideas on how to use the power of words in your parenting:
An 11-year-old girl gave me the best reason to use positive words with a child:
"My mom always tells me how happy she is I was born and not just on my birthday. She says that these have been the 11 happiest years of her life. That makes me feel totally great, especially when she says it at the end of a tough day when school has gotten me down. It's nice to go to sleep feeling that way."
You can e-mail Mimi Doe at MiDoe@aol.com.