There’s a big difference between being kind to people and being a people pleaser. The latter isn’t loving. You can help people when you can but always make sure that your needs are met first. Self-love requires setting boundaries on what you can give to others. It means doing favors selectively, to people you want to help because you care about them, not to buy approval. When you love yourself, self-approval is the main goal. It’s not loving to help people at your expense. Set boundaries but always have a kind attitude to other people. Helping others is a loving act but take care of you too!