Take the Next Right Step
Are you going through a big life transition? Perhaps you’ve lost a job, gotten divorced or you’re suddenly an empty nester. It’s not at all unusual to feel a bit directionless and just plain lost! Misguided loved ones may encourage you to “get over it,” “let it go” or “buck up” and proceed with your life.
BY: Lynn A. Robinson
Take the Next Right Step
Reprinted with permission from Listen: Trusting Your Inner Voice in Times of Crisis, by Lynn A. Robinson, published by Globe Pequot Press (2010).
Are you going through a big life transition? Perhaps you’ve lost a job, gotten divorced or you’re suddenly an empty nester. It’s not at all unusual to feel a bit directionless and just plain lost! Misguided loved ones may encourage you to “get over it,” “let it go” or “buck up” and proceed with your life. If it were only that easy! Your old life is gone and you probably feel you don’t have a clue about where you’re heading. And even if you did, you may not know how to get there.
Depending on your circumstances, you could be feeling depressed, hopeless, tired, overwhelmed or all of the above. None of these emotions puts you in the optimistic mood necessary to create the positive change you so desperately want or need. However, I love this irreverent quote by Lee Iacocca, “So what do we do? Anything. Something. So long as we just don't sit there. If we screw it up, start over. Try something else. If we wait until we've satisfied all the uncertainties, it may be too late.”
You’re Not Lost. You’re Exploring!
It’s also a bit like looking at a map for directions when you’re unclear about your destination. It’s hard to get there when you don’t know where there is! My friend and songwriter, Jana Stanfield, has a wonderful song entitled, “I’m Not Lost. I’m Exploring.” One of the lines is “I have joy as my compass and faith as my map.” I’m willing to bet you know more than you give yourself credit for. You know, for example, that at least one or more of the following are true. You want to:
o Feel happier
o Have more fun
o Be healthy
o Have more friends and sense of community
o Be more confident
o Have more money
o Find work that you love
o Be in a loving, committed partnership
o Feel joy again
o Make healthy choices for your life and your body (overcome addictions)
o Have more faith
o Make up one of your own.
I’d like to give you a technique I call “The Next Right Step.” You may want to have all of the ideas mentioned above, but for the sake of this exercise, I’d like you to choose the one that most resonates with you right now.