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Create a Wondering Life Instead of a Hoping Life

Create a Wondering Life Instead of a Hoping Life

It helps us un-set our hearts when we replace the words "I hope" with the words "I wonder." Let me demonstrate. Instead of "I hope the war ends quickly," make it "I wonder if the war will end quickly." Instead of "I hope the stock market goes up," make it "I wonder if the stock market will go up." Instead of "I hope I keep my job," make it "I wonder if I'll keep my job." Notice the relief in this simple shift.

Even with difficult situations in our lives, substituting "I wonder" for "I hope" keeps our hopes from being dashed and opens up the possibility of our learning and growing from whatever happens.

Dr. Susan Jeffers is the author of the self-help classic 'Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.' This article is adapted from her newest book, 'Embracing Uncertainty: Breakthrough Methods for Achieving Peace of Mind When Facing the Unknown,' (St. Martin's Press). © Susan Jeffers 2003. Visit her website at