I know of no better way to put yourself down and set yourself up for unhappiness than to think of all the reasons why your brother, sister, neighbor, friend, co-worker, acquaintance, is better than you at golfing, dancing, cooking, writing, running, biking, etc. That’s because there will always be someone better than you at something. And the more you focus on that, the less time and energy you will have on honing what you’re good at. That’s a recipe for draining the happiness right out of you.