Tommy Newberry Interview
An interview with the best-selling author.
BY: Gayle Trotter
GT: You write, “The top secret conversations you hold in the privacy of your own mind do not stay confidential forever. These thoughts will eventually be revealed for everyone to see. A dream, a business, or a marriage dies first in the mind.” Can you explain this?
TN: There is something that our best decisions and our worse decisions have in common, and that is they all began with a thought. A business is first envisioned in our mind, and if we have the courage to go for it, we will go for it. If somebody discourages us, we may not. The same thing with marriage. The idea of getting married occurs first as a thought, and if we follow up on that thought with our actions, maybe we will get married. Over time, a marriage that deteriorates does not just deteriorate. It does not just break down from the outside. It breaks down on the inside with thoughts that are incompatible with a strong, healthy, loving marriage. We have to be careful if we want to not only maximize our joy, but also maximize our full potential, to understand that we have to guard our hearts. We have to guard what goes into our mind. We have to think the thoughts that are consistent with God’s best plans for our lives.
The pathway to experiencing joy is to line up our thinking with God’s thinking for us. We are never going to be perfect with it, but we do not have to be. The more consistently that we think on what is lovely, pure, true, gracious and just, let us say about our spouse, the stronger our connection with our spouse is going to be. The more we focus on the strengths in our children, the greater the relationship we are going to have with our children, and even better, the more of their full potential we are going to bring out. The same thing is true with a boss and employees, or an entrepreneur and his team. Whatever you focus on, you produce more of, and that all starts with the thought that you choose to think. If you can take control of your thought life, you can take control of your emotional life. If you take control of your emotional life, you end up having a lot more fun and you end up being a much greater example to others, and a much better witness to bring others to God as well.
Tommy Newberry is the New York Times bestselling author of The 4:8 Principle and Success is Not an Accident, and the founder of The 1% Club, an organization dedicated to helping entrepreneurs maximize their full potential. His clients include Chick-fil-A, Wendy's, Morgan Stanley, Wells Fargo, Aflac, and AutoTrader.com, to name a few. Tommy lives in Atlanta with his wife, Kristin, and their three boys. www.tommynewberry.com. Read Gayle’s blog here.