• A way to tell my loved ones I care about them because I am taking care of my health

• If I exercise as a way to lose weight, that reduces stress and depression and helps improve my mood.

What is good about the way things are now?

There is a reason (and probably more than one) that you continue to act the way you do. It is vital that you identify what is good about your habit.

Many clients look at me like I am crazy when I ask questions like “What is good about smoking?” No one has ever asked them that question. And yet, it is vital that we figure out what is pulling them to continue to smoke. If we don’t identify and address these benefits, we will never be able to sustain change.

So, write out all that is good — in your mind — about your habit. For example, one of my clients who wanted to quit smoking identified the following “benefits” of smoking: