5 Ways a Wife Needs Respect From Her Husband

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Women let’s face it, often times we expect our husband to read our thoughts. Am I right? And men, most times you probably feel like your wife doesn’t spell out to you exactly what she needs. Am I right? Men and women are different in many ways – their thought process, rationale, and logic are all relative to a different wave link. Ladies, I think it’s safe to say that we tend to get caught up in a fairy tale vision of how things should be. The stereotypical ties associated with men being labeled as the breadwinner and knight in shining armor are no longer relevant – and quite honestly, I’m not sure that they were ever significant to anyone else other than the characters in the books we read.

It’s important, as women, to convey to our husbands what we need as Christian women within our marriage. While I’m sure many of us can think of a ‘honey do list’, we must recognize that a lot of things that we need and want are tied to a key component within any relationship and that is respect. Christian couples must lay their foundation upon a layer of respect. If a couple does not respect each other, then the relationship will not be balanced and the irregularities will cause separation. Both women and men reading this may be scratching their heads because they probably don’t know where to start. The great news is that we’ve done the leg work for you and provided couples with a layout of ways a wife needs respect from her husband. Be sure to take notes.

Faith

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Every Christian places their faith and God as their number one priority. As Christians, we’re taught that putting Jesus on top will help everything else fall into place and it provides balance and perspective within everything we do. A wife needs her husband to respect that prioritization and do the same within his own life. Therefore, couples should attend church and pray together. Communicating with the Lord will help couples develop a stronger relationship with their faith and as a couple.

Husbands, you must understand and respect that your wife has a higher calling than just your wife. She, like yourself, is a child of God and wants to serve her Lord to the best of her ability. Show respect by seeking out ways your relationship can flourish with the aid of Christianity. This can be done by joining small groups, attending Bible study or even reading inspirational books that provide feedback on worship and leadership.

Her Opinion Matters

Women need to be heard. Whether it’s a discussion about the children or upcoming plans, women want their opinion to matter. Therefore, husbands need to truly listen and take action. Stereotypically men are handed the authority as ‘the man of the house’, leaving wives to feel like their opinions and voice doesn’t matter. Husbands, include your wife on decisions and convey to her that you want to know how she feels. Let her know that you genuinely care about her opinion and think that she has great ideas.

When families mix together, it can be difficult for wives to take a step back and allow in-laws to be part of the conversation. It’s important that husbands identify power struggles that may be taking place or could happen. For example, if your wife is constantly pushed into uncomfortable situations as an in-law then it’s your duty to interject. Make sure that your wife’s opinion is not pushed aside and help her feel respected within situations.

Gratitude

Respect is built upon a great deal of gratitude. Women often feel the need to wear many hats – mother, wife, friend, daughter, and career woman to name a few. In addition, to these titles wives are often left to cook, clean, teach, and complete an impossible list of to-dos. As her husband, be gracious and tell her how thankful you are for the things that she does. Do not leave an opportunity unturned. Tell her thank you by saying it verbally, writing it on a note, highlighting a scripture that will inspire her, do something nice for her that she’ll appreciate or complete one of the chores that you know is her absolute least favorite thing to do. You’ll find that it truly is the little things that make the difference. If your wife feels respected, she’ll have a more positive outlook and feel truly appreciated. Each day try to carry out one way to respect your wife with a grateful heart.

To Be an Equal

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Women constantly feel like they’re the equal to men. Since the early days of our history books, women have had to fight for equality and in a marriage this should not be the case. Jesus created Adam and Eve, and He never indicated that one had more power than the other. They were to live as equals. Wives expect the same today. Therefore, husbands should respect their wives by making sure that they do not make decisions alone. Ask your wife for her opinion and if your views differ, try to be rationale and seek out ways you both can come to a compromise.

Being equal and showing respect also means men must do the same things are expected by their wives. For example chores should not be one sided. If a wife is expected to clean and do laundry, then the husband should respect his wife enough to do the same. There will be times where one individual is able to exude more tolerance when it comes to a specific chore; however, these are certain instances and do not encompass a majority of items.

Communication

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Communication is truly the key to any relationship. Whether it’s your praying to God or talking to a peer about a task at work, if we don’t communicate then there is no way to understand and approach others. A wife wants her husband to respect her and their relationship by communicating. No human being can read minds therefore, it’s important that everyone understand this and strive to be there for each other. If there is a problem or situation arises, a woman wants her husband to convey this to her. Couples that communicate will have a longer more fulfilling marriage because they’ll know exactly what’s on the shoulders of the other. Respecting each other through communication will also help couples to avoid big arguments because there will not be any ambiguity.

Furthermore, husbands will find that their wife will gain a great deal of self-worth through talking because she will feel important and part of the equation.

Share the Respect

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These are just some of the many ways a wife needs respect from her husband. As Christians, it’s important to recognize how respect can change a relationship and improve a couple’s dynamic. Husbands, you should incorporate these tips and other ways you can respect your wife so that your marriage will flourish and continue to get stronger. No one has all of the answers and there is no concrete manual on how to make a marriage work. However, if you entrust in God you’ll discover that having Him on your side will provide your everyday actions with a system of checks and balance which will ensure a happier and healthier marriage. Keep in mind that respect is not something you learn in one day. It’s an action that must be carried out every day in order for it to become a way of life and natural.

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