9 Mistakes Parents Make That Lead Their Children to Absolute Failure

Many new parents assume that they will ‘instinctively know’ how to best raise their own children, believing that parenting comes naturally. But sometimes our ‘instinctive’ parenting techniques, often inherited from our parents or us reacting in opposition to what they had done, just don’t work. According to many psychology experts, there are some very common mistakes that parents continually make when raising their children. Sadly, these errors predispose children towards feelings of insecurity and limit their chances of being successful not only in their professional lives, but also in their personal lives. Here are nine mistakes that will lead your children to absolute failure. If you want your son or daughter to be successful, it’s imperative that you don’t do these things.

Coming to the rescue too quickly.

This mistake goes hand in hand with the previous one. Thirty years ago, young people had essential skills, but that is not the case with today’s generation. Nowadays parents step in much too quickly to solve their children’s problems, without giving the child or teen time to think of a solution on their own. We surround our children with excessive “care,” and take away the possibility of resolving difficult situations, thus ruining their decision-making skills.

The sad thing about this is that our children grow up expecting mom and dad to always come to their rescue. Take this into account, because this doesn’t happen in the real world. Running to their aid too quickly will make your son or daughter ill-prepared for being an adult.

The children of Generation Z.

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As a parent, it is not your fault that you are part of or contributing to the Generation Z cohort. The children of this generation can become responsible adults, with tremendous social value and it is our responsibility as parents to guide them.

Unfortunately, some of us are raising individualistic, self-absorbed children. This is also the generation that has adapted to technology to the point that they depend on it. Because of this, some of our children have poor communication skills, person -to-person interaction. If as parents we want to form this generation properly, we must work harder than previous generations. Many children of this generation have a disregard for education and employment, believing they aren’t important aspects of their lives. They don’t consider education to be a means to survival. We should do everything in our power to help them understand the value of education and hard work.

Not starting them off on the way of faith.

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The Bible says: Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it (Proverbs 22:6).

If you are a Christian, how will you respond to God if He ever asks you why you didn’t talk to your children about Jesus? Why didn’t you take them to church? Why didn’t to show them the value and satisfaction of serving others, of loving “thy neighbor”? What will you say? Will you blame the government, your many occupations or your ex? If you say you are a Christian, your first responsibility is leading with example. Just in case they don’t understand you, you must speak to them and teach them what the Bible says about God.

Leaving children to grow up with no beliefs, and thinking he or she will make a decision for Jesus later doesn’t work all the time. Putting excessive pressure on them to “behave” as Christians when they are not may also hurt them. There is a balance, and if there is no balance, you are still responsible for talking to them about Jesus Christ.

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