Get Feedback

Finally, we get to the hardest step of all: inviting critical feedback. The more accurately you can perceive how others see you, the better you’ll do in social situations. For example, if you’re the person who thinks they’re funny, yet always tells jokes that fall flat and interprets the resulting polite laughter as approval, you’ll be able to change this with a little feedback. Otherwise, you’d never know!

And if you’re already aware of the traits that are holding you down, getting a little constructive feedback is one of the best ways to figure out a solution.

Make no mistake—accepting this kind of criticism is hard. It means coming face to face with your worst faults by asking someone to objectively evaluate you. But you can make this easier by going to someone you can trust to be kind and constructive.

To make this happen, zero in on a few specific characteristics you think you might need help with. Ask your friend how you do in these categories, and what they think you could do in order to improve. This will give you a little outside insight into your personality that you might not otherwise get.

Knowledge is power, and in this case, it is the power to truly see yourself so that you can intentionally change those traits that are holding you back.

Love Yourself

All of these tips have one thing in common: they help you love yourself. Seeing yourself as the beautiful, unique human being that you are is the most important ingredient of the type of life-changing confidence you’re after.

So, the next time you look in the mirror, smile. You’re looking at the reflection of someone with potential and value. Use these psychological tools to look properly, and you’ll see this.