So there I sat, listening to her expound one particular view as if it were official Church policy...but I knew I would have no trouble explaining to my 6-year-old why we don't follow the same rules she was advocating (my older kids are all over 18; for good or ill, they have already graduated from our school of intelligent culture selection).

Then, in the midst of her talk, she launched into a story about a teen suicide in a ward she had formerly lived in. Her point (when she finally reached it) was that the boy's suicide must have been caused by the lyrics to the songs he listened to. Her proof was that neither his parents nor his friends had any idea he was suicidal, and he had made Rice Krispie treats and left them in the fridge that very night, so he must not have intended to kill himself until he listened to Those Songs.

As soon as I realized she was going to go into such graphic details, I took my daughter's hand and walked out. I knew that the moment we started to leave, my daughter would stop listening to the talk, so my action was effective.

It was, however, my second choice. My first choice was to speak loudly from the congregation, interrupting her talk by saying, "Please do not tell any more about this incident. There are children here, and your talk has crossed the line into being at least PG-13."

But that would have violated the decorum of Sacrament Meeting, and I had to admit the possibility that maybe I was the only one who was bothered by what seemed to me to be a completely needless graphicness in her story. Only one other father joined me in taking a child out of the meeting. I was definitely in the minority.

Still, I find it ironic that it did not cross this sister's mind that a detailed depiction of teen suicide is one of the ways a show can get an "inappropriate rating." Now, in a talk to parents alone, that story might have been appropriate. But Sacrament Meeting has many children and teenagers present, and you can't count on having none of them pay attention at any given time.

I wish, when she judges other parents for their disobedience to the rules she believes in, she would remember that it is quite possible for someone with a high and noble purpose to tell a story that some in her audience think is inappropriate for their children. If she can inadvertently give offense, perhaps she could leave room for supposing that some who make films, TV shows, songs, and books might also have good intent and deserve to be distinguished from those who try to glamorize evil.

A G rating is no guarantee of wholesomeness, an R rating no guarantee of wickedness, and sometimes even those who stand--or sit--in holy places find themselves subjected to inappropriate cultural experiences. In cultural matters, maybe it's a good idea to have a strategy beyond mere prohibition.