Herman glimpsed his "soul mate" for the first time when he was eight yearsold and in a Nazi work camp. She was on the other side of a barbed wirefence. He called to her for food and water. Years later they met in NewYork City, dispatched by friends on a blind date. They immediatelydiscovered their unique connection and agreed to get married. Soul mates!

Anecdotes about finding love in the strangest places are the most amusingaspect of this book. Miller's talk about an "inner guide" instructing uswho to marry may be useless to those whose inner voices are more inchoate.Her advice--don't be blinded by preconceptions about the "right" personto marry--sometimes strains credulity, as in the tale of the AustrianNazi whose inner guide tells her to marry an American Jew. It also has theuncomfortable feeling of being directed at people in their late 40s whoare getting a little desperate and want some justification for dating atotally inappropriate person; after all, most of the time, people marrythose from similar backgrounds, "soul mates" or no.