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People have been trying to figure out the key to happiness probably as long as humans have walked the earth. Today, I will toss my two cents into that discussion. In order to be happy, I believe that we need to approach our problems in life by moving from Frustration \u2192 Acceptance \u2192 Gratitude.<\/p>\n

Frustration<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Let me explain. Some of us live in a constant state of frustration. If something unpleasant happens, we automatically become sour and irritated. When we miss the train, it ruins our day. If a friend or family member is rude to us, we obsess over the unkind words that were said. An unexpected bill arrives, and we immediately feel stressed out. When we live like that, not only are we frustrated, but we are unhappy. Why? Because we expect life to be perfect, and it never will be.<\/p>\n

Acceptance<\/h3>\n

Acceptance is the first step in leaving the world of frustration. When we accept life, we accept that it is imperfect. That is hard to do! But realize that no one\u2019s life is perfect. I know that some people seem to have the perfect life. However, you would be surprised by how deceiving appearances can be. I know of marriages that look terrific on the outside, but in reality are cold and distant. And then there are those people who seem to have everything \u2013 a beautiful home, luxury cars, expensive clothing. However, what you don\u2019t know is that they are up to their earlobes in debt. Very little is as it appears. The only thing that we can know for sure is that no one has the perfect life.<\/p>\n

People who have accepted life\u2019s imperfection know that it isn\u2019t what happens to them that matters as much as how they handle it. So if they miss their train, they shrug their shoulders, read their newspaper, and wait for the next one. If someone is rude to them, they remember that some people are struggling with personal issues.\u00a0 So, they ignore the behavior. Their days aren\u2019t ruined by matters outside their control. And as a result, they are content.<\/p>\n

Gratitude<\/h3>\n

Once we have accepted that life is imperfect, we then can learn to live in gratitude. The challenge is how? Sure I can accept<\/em> the missed train, but how can I be grateful<\/em> for the missed train? Or, how can I be grateful if someone has hurt my feelings? What if I lose my job? How can I be grateful, even though everything in my life isn\u2019t as I would like it to be?<\/p>\n

The reality is that we aren\u2019t going to be grateful for the bad things that happen to us. Perhaps in the future a lost job might lead to a better opportunity, and in retrospect I will be grateful. However, at the time I lose my job, I\u2019m not going to be grateful, no matter how spiritually evolved I am. Likewise, if someone hurts my feelings, I\u2019m not going to be grateful for that person, even if down the road, that experience results in my being stronger and more compassionate.<\/p>\n

Developing Gratitude by Having Big Picture View of Life<\/strong><\/h3>\n

The key is to view the unfortunate things that happen to us in the<\/em> context of the bigger picture<\/em>. For example, if I am grateful for all the good things in my life \u2013a place to live, my health, financial security \u2013 then a missed train is not a big deal. Or if someone insults me, it doesn\u2019t matter to me because I am grateful for all the other positive relationships in my life. Gratitude allows us to view occasional problems as merely a small part of an otherwise blessed life.<\/p>\n

When we live in gratitude, we, in effect, are insulated from the frustrations of life. Grateful people almost have a suit of armor which no person or event can penetrate. Unkind words and unfair circumstances are no match for a mind that lives in gratitude. For the grateful person, the bumps in the road of life are just bumps. They aren\u2019t roadblocks.<\/p>\n

Making the transition from frustration \u2192acceptance \u2192 gratitude is hard. Some people live their lives never getting out of the frustration zone. Others end up in acceptance. But if we want to create a life of happiness, that means approaching each day with a spirit of gratitude.\u00a0 (To read about developing a gratitude practice, click here<\/a>.)<\/p>\n

Email: meerabelle@meerabelledey.com<\/strong><\/p>\n

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