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Many people struggle with their self-esteem.\u00a0 If you are one of them, know that you are not alone.\u00a0 The world can be a very cruel place, and oftentimes, other people can be negative and harsh.\u00a0 It is no small wonder that sometimes our self-esteem can be low.<\/p>\n

The problem with having low self-esteem is that it can lead us to make bad decisions.\u00a0 We end up making decisions that aren\u2019t in our best interests because we don\u2019t know our value.<\/p>\n

For example, we all know decent, normal people who end up marrying difficult individuals because they think that they can\u2019t do better.\u00a0 Some people don\u2019t pursue certain careers because they believe that they aren\u2019t smart enough or talented enough.\u00a0 People make all kinds of terrible life decisions due to a lack of self-esteem.<\/p>\n

Your Upbringing and Your Self-Esteem<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your upbringing can dramatically affect your self-esteem.\u00a0 It is the job of parents to instill a proper level self-esteem in their children.\u00a0 That means that parents are supposed to ensure that their children know what makes them special!\u00a0 Every child should know what he or she is good at, and be happy with the unique person that they are.\u00a0 That is healthy<\/em> self-esteem.<\/p>\n

The problem is that many parents fail to instill self-esteem in their children.\u00a0 They undermine their children\u2019s self-esteem in all kinds of ways.\u00a0 Some parents don\u2019t spend enough time with their children, and as a result, their children don\u2019t feel like they are valuable.\u00a0 Other parents focus too heavily on their children\u2019s flaws, and ignore their gifts.\u00a0 Some parents may excessively praise one child to the detriment of another child\u2019s self-worth.<\/p>\n

Sadly, there are a lot of people broken people running around the world because their parents didn\u2019t make them feel loved, valued and special.<\/p>\n

Your Self-Esteem Can Be Improved<\/strong><\/p>\n

The good news is that even if your parents didn\u2019t instill a healthy level of self-esteem in you, this isn\u2019t the end of the road.\u00a0 You still have the ability to grow in confidence and self-esteem.\u00a0 You simply have to work at it.<\/p>\n

Below are ways to improve your self-esteem.\u00a0 Follow them and starting loving the beautiful person that you are!<\/p>\n

Surround Yourself with the Right<\/em> Kind of People<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you are working on building up your self-esteem, it is important to be around people who encourage you.\u00a0 You need to surround yourself with cheerleaders who focus on your best qualities, rather than those who want to point out your flaws.<\/p>\n

Realize that there are some people who can\u2019t help but be critical of others.\u00a0 Sadly, the critics of the world are a dime a dozen.\u00a0 Don\u2019t listen to them, and certainly don\u2019t base your self-esteem on their opinions.<\/p>\n

Instead, surround yourself with people who are positive.\u00a0 Find a mentor who encourages you and believes in you.\u00a0 Choose friends who have high self-esteem and who boost the self-esteem of others.\u00a0 If you choose to be around upbeat, encouraging people, you naturally will be positive yourself!<\/p>\n

Speak Nicely to Yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n

Most of us are too hard on ourselves.\u00a0 If we make a mistake, the world barely will notice, yet we\u2019ll beat ourselves up over it.\u00a0 Or perhaps we have lots of impressive accomplishments, but we only focus on our failures.<\/p>\n

To improve your self-esteem, you need to change your internal dialogue.\u00a0 You need to learn to speak kindly to yourself.<\/p>\n

This is where positive affirmations can help immensely.\u00a0 Using them initially may feel awkward or odd.\u00a0 However, they are the best way to rewire your brain to think positively about yourself.<\/p>\n

Your positive affirmations don\u2019t have to be anything fancy.\u00a0 A positive affirmation could be as simple as, \u201cI can accomplish anything that I focus on.\u201d\u00a0 Or, \u201cI am talented and intelligent.\u201d<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to say them out loud.\u00a0 But you should say them to yourself through out the day.\u00a0 Treat them as exercises, like doing sit-ups.\u00a0 Realize that if your self-esteem is low, then your mind is not thinking properly.\u00a0 So, you have to retrain it to think correctly.\u00a0 As you say these affirmations to yourself, your mind will transform, and your self-esteem will improve.<\/p>\n

Realize that You Are on This Earth for a Reason<\/strong><\/p>\n

If your self-esteem is low, understand this: You are not here by accident.\u00a0 If you are on this earth, that means that God has a very specific purpose for your life.\u00a0 Your job is to figure out that purpose and do it!<\/p>\n

So, there is no reason to feel inadequate or unimportant.\u00a0 You are important.<\/em>\u00a0 You are here for the purpose of improving the world in some way.\u00a0 So, in fact, you are incredibly valuable<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Your purpose may be to improve the lives of your family members or of the people in your community or workplace.\u00a0 It may be to help animals or the earth.\u00a0 The ways in which we each can improve the world through our kindness and generosity are endless.<\/p>\n

So, shut out the noise of the world.\u00a0 Ignore the people who will tell you that you are lacking in some way.\u00a0 They are dead wrong.\u00a0 You are perfectly made for God\u2019s purpose for your life.<\/em><\/p>\n

We all suffer from low self-esteem at times.\u00a0 That is understandable.\u00a0 The world can be a harsh and critical place.\u00a0 So, we have to work at boosting our self-esteem.\u00a0 Use the strategies above to keep your self-esteem at a high level.\u00a0 Know how very valuable you are.\u00a0 (To read about ways to bulletproof your self-esteem, click here<\/a>.)<\/p>\n

Email: meerabelle@meerabelledey.com<\/strong><\/p>\n

To receive my free e-book, “The Confidence Course,” and my weekly newsletter, subscribe at meerabelledey.com<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Many people struggle with their self-esteem.\u00a0 If you are one of them, know that you are not alone.\u00a0 The world can be a very cruel place, and oftentimes, other people can be negative and harsh.\u00a0 It is no small wonder that sometimes our self-esteem can be low. The problem with having low self-esteem is that…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":593,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2352","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"\n4 Ways to Improve Your Self-Esteem - Your Morning Cup of Inspiration<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Everyone at times struggles with low self-esteem. 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