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They say that the one constant in life is change.\u00a0 It is true.\u00a0 Good experiences come to an end, as do bad ones.\u00a0 So, learning how to move from those endings to new beginnings is a skill that all of us need.<\/p>\n

For example, I currently am experiencing the tough ending of being a full-time mom.\u00a0 My husband and I took my daughter to college last week, and now I am officially an empty nester.\u00a0 My days of being a 24-7 mom are over.\u00a0 Admittedly, figuring out how to transition to being a full-time parent to being a parent with an adult, semi-independent child is hard.<\/p>\n

However, the key is to view tough endings as not just endings.\u00a0 Instead, we need to view every ending also as a new beginning.\u00a0 Problems occur when we get stuck in \u201cending mode\u201d and don\u2019t transition to that new beginning.<\/p>\n

Below are some ways to move from your tough endings to a positive new beginnings.<\/p>\n

Accept Feelings of Disappointment and Mourning<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Whenever something ends in our lives, we naturally will struggle with feelings of disappointment or mourning.\u00a0 Perhaps we are disappointed because a job or relationship ended too soon.\u00a0 If a person or pet has died, we may be mourning their absence.<\/p>\n

Those are feelings are all natural.\u00a0 Don\u2019t suppress them.\u00a0 Experiencing pain and grief is part of the process when we are transitioning to a new beginning.\u00a0 For instance, if you get divorced, you probably will feel relief that a bad relationship has ended.\u00a0 However, you also will feel disappointment that the marriage did not work out as planned.<\/p>\n

View feelings of disappointment and mourning as an important part of the process toward a new beginning.<\/p>\n

\u00a0Accept the Ending Itself<\/strong><\/h3>\n

In life, there are situations that we simply have to accept.\u00a0 The death of a loved one or the end of a marriage are facts of life.\u00a0 We cannot change them.\u00a0 For example, my daughter leaving for college is a fact that I have to accept.\u00a0 Kids grow up.\u00a0 We can\u2019t fight that.\u00a0 It is what it is.<\/p>\n

We have problems when we rail against the facts of life, instead of accepting them.\u00a0 When we complain about the unfairness of life, or when we feel bitter about an ending, we are fighting against reality.\u00a0 And reality always wins.<\/p>\n

It is better to accept the reality of the ending.\u00a0 Try to think of the situation as positively as possible.\u00a0 And then move on to the next step in your life.<\/p>\n

If You Don\u2019t Know What to Do, Do What You Know<\/strong><\/h3>\n

When we are facing a difficult ending, whether it be the end of a relationship, a job or other situation, sometimes we can feel paralyzed.\u00a0 It is hard to know what to do next.\u00a0 That is OK!\u00a0 You don\u2019t have to have all the answers right away.<\/p>\n

Instead of trying to figure out everything right away, give yourself some time to think.\u00a0 And while you are figuring out your life, just do what you know.\u00a0 Follow your typical daily routines.\u00a0 Cooking, cleaning and doing laundry are all great ways to do something positive while waiting for inspiration.\u00a0 Organizing your finances is another positive activity.\u00a0 If you have a job, throw yourself into your work responsibilities.<\/p>\n

The key during times of uncertainty or loss is to do what you do well.\u00a0 That will keep you feeling positive and in control, when certain aspects of your life are no longer within your control.<\/p>\n

To Create New Beginnings, Refresh Old Dreams<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Whenever something ends, whether it be a relationship, a job, or some other circumstance, it leaves a gap in your life.\u00a0 Very often, you have some free time on your hands.\u00a0 Don\u2019t spend that time lamenting what has been lost.\u00a0 Instead, use that time to resurrect old dreams.<\/p>\n

For instance, I studied classical flute and voice as a young person and in college.\u00a0 However, during my first marriage, life got in the way, and I wasn\u2019t able to pursue my interests in music.\u00a0 Many years later, when that marriage ended, I was single and had extra time.\u00a0 So, I resumed my interest in music.\u00a0 I bought a flute, hired a teacher, and found my love of music again.<\/p>\n

So, don\u2019t dwell on your loss.\u00a0 Instead, shift your focus to how you might use your new found time to pursue former interests.\u00a0 Create positive new beginnings in your life.\u00a0 You will be happier, and your life will be richer for it.<\/p>\n

Realize That You Are Alive for A Reason<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Until the day you die, you are here on this earth for a reason.\u00a0 So, even if something in your life has ended, know that if you woke up this morning, that means you still have work to do on this earth.\u00a0 God has a purpose for you, and it is your job to figure out what that is and Do It.<\/p>\n

So, realize that an ending does not signify life is over.\u00a0 Rather, only one aspect of your life is over.\u00a0 For example, let\u2019s say that your job ended.\u00a0 That can be difficult and disappointing.\u00a0 I have a friend who recently lost her job due to her company going out of business.\u00a0 When she told me, I reassured her that she is still the same person.\u00a0 She still has talents to share with a new employer and with the world.\u00a0 She simply needs to find another way to use those talents.\u00a0 There are new beginnings in store for her!<\/p>\n

In your life, perhaps a relationship ended or someone you loved passed away.\u00a0 Realize that you still have love to offer the world.\u00a0 Find ways to keep sharing your goodness and kindness with others.<\/p>\n

It is hard to face endings in life.\u00a0 Consider using the above approaches to move from those tough endings to new beginnings.\u00a0 Keep making the most of life until your very last breath.\u00a0 (To read more about making a fresh start, click here<\/a>.)<\/p>\n

Email: meerabelle@meerabelledey.com<\/strong><\/p>\n

To receive my free ebook, “The Confidence Course,” and my weekly newsletter, go to meerabelledey.com<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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