{"id":1576,"date":"2019-11-27T13:11:09","date_gmt":"2019-11-27T13:11:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/yourmorningcupofinspiration\/?p=1576"},"modified":"2020-09-09T11:59:25","modified_gmt":"2020-09-09T11:59:25","slug":"thrive-not-just-survive-holidays","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/yourmorningcupofinspiration\/2019\/11\/thrive-not-just-survive-holidays.html","title":{"rendered":"Thrive (don’t just survive) During the Holidays"},"content":{"rendered":"
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If you are anything like me, your holidays do not look like a Norman Rockwell painting. There is the stress of overspending. Many of us face having to navigate difficult family relationships at this time. And all of us face the stress of just having to do too much.\u00a0 In short, for many, it is difficult to survive the holidays, much less thrive during them.<\/p>\n

Even my favorite holiday years, when my daughter was small and still believed in Santa, were marred by family conflict. The problem is that the holidays are supposed to be made special by our relationships with other people. But often the problem with the holidays, ironically, typically is other people!<\/p>\n

In recent years, I\u2019ve learned to take a different approach to Thanksgiving and Christmas. The key to thriving (not just surviving) during the holidays is to make them highly personal and meaningful. That doesn\u2019t happen automatically. It takes some thought and planning.<\/p>\n

So, don’t just survive the holidays.\u00a0 Thrive during them!\u00a0 Below are some ways that you can create a meaningful holiday season. Consider taking the following approaches, and watch this year be your best holiday season yet.<\/p>\n

Thriving During the Holidays by Giving Thoughtfully<\/strong><\/h3>\n

I am all for charitable giving during the holidays (and throughout the year, for that matter.). But charitable giving isn\u2019t \u201cthoughtful\u201d giving. It is just buying toys and giving cash to people we don\u2019t know.<\/p>\n

Thoughtful giving means making a real connection with another human being. So for you, it may mean giving your friend who just got divorced an inspiring book about starting over. You might give your child that iPad they\u2019ve been eyeing all year but would never dream of asking for because they think it costs too much money. You may give your spouse a book of poetry which says all the things that you wish you could say to him or her.<\/p>\n

Thoughtful giving is about trying to give another person something that he or she truly would love. And in doing so, you say a couple of things to that person. You tell them, \u201cEven if you don\u2019t realize it, I am paying attention to you. You are on my mind. And seeing your face light up with happiness gives me great joy.\u201d<\/p>\n

So, if you want to thrive, rather than just survive the holidays, give thoughtfully. Thoughtful gift giving is more than just shopping. It is a way to express to another person that they matter to us. And that feels good.<\/p>\n

Reflect on the History of the Holidays<\/strong><\/h3>\n

I am not a fan of the bumper stickers which say \u201cPut Christ Back in Christmas.\u201d It seems obnoxious to me to tell other people how to celebrate their holidays. And frankly, it seems like Christian bragging \u2013 \u201cLook at me! I know how to celebrate Christmas the right way<\/em>!\u201d<\/p>\n

All that being said, I personally<\/em> enjoy reading the Christmas story in the Gospels during the month of December. It is a fascinating story, particularly if you also study the historical context of Jesus\u2019 birth. I similarly enjoy reading about the history of the Pilgrims at Thanksgiving.<\/p>\n

When we think about the history of our holidays, it makes them come alive. They aren\u2019t just the crass, sappy occasions that are presented on television and in the movies. These holidays originate from dramatic, fascinating periods in our world\u2019s history. When you pause and consider that, it makes this holiday season something far grander and more interesting.<\/p>\n

Survive the Holidays by Letting Go of What You Think the Holidays Should Be<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Lots of people get depressed during the holidays. That is largely because it isn\u2019t what they thought it would be. Here\u2019s a news flash. No one\u2019s holidays are perfect.<\/p>\n

When I was a kid, my parents barely could muster up the enthusiasm to celebrate Christmas. Worse yet, they advised me as a small child that there was no Santa Claus. Why? I have no idea. Perhaps they thought childlike joy and wonder was a bad thing.<\/p>\n

So, when I had my own child, I made every effort to make Christmas special. There was Santa! There was mystery and excitement. And thanks to my efforts, my daughter could barely contain herself when she was small on Christmas morning. And I was blessed to be able to experience a little bit of that wonder through her.<\/p>\n

When the inspirational speaker, Tony Robbins, was 11-years-old, on Thanksgiving his family had no food. That day, a stranger dropped off bags of groceries outside his front door \u2013 enough to make a large Thanksgiving meal. Think of how challenging that experience must have been for a young boy. Significantly, it was that experience that made him decide that he wanted to dedicate his life to helping others.<\/p>\n

Aim for Meaning, Not Perfection, During the Holidays<\/strong><\/h3>\n

My point is this: No one\u2019s life is perfect. The problem is that the holidays shine a spot light on whatever imperfections there are in our lives. If we are alone, we feel lonelier. Our troubled family relationships only become more troubled during the holidays. If someone in our family has died, we miss them all the more. With all that imperfection, it is very hard to create a Norman Rockwell Christmas.<\/p>\n

But realize that no one\u2019s holidays are perfect. No one\u2019s family is perfect. So, forget about having a Hallmark-worthy holiday celebration. Stop being disappointed with what is lacking. Instead, work to make the holidays meaningful for you<\/em>.<\/p>\n

For me, the best part of the holidays is going to church. I love the hymns. I love the scripture readings. They are the same every year, and yet I never tire of them.<\/p>\n

I also love the Charlie Brown specials (Thanksgiving and Christmas). And I love the festive food. And when I am able to buy just the right gift for someone else, that makes me so happy.<\/p>\n

This holiday season, do those things that make the experience meaningful for you. Be intentional in how you spend the next month. If you do, you will find that you will thrive (not just survive) during the holidays. (To read more about making the holidays meaningful, click here<\/a>.)<\/p>\n

Email: meerabelle@meerabelledey.com<\/strong><\/p>\n

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