{"id":1454,"date":"2019-09-04T16:14:01","date_gmt":"2019-09-04T16:14:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/yourmorningcupofinspiration\/?p=1454"},"modified":"2019-09-06T17:42:54","modified_gmt":"2019-09-06T17:42:54","slug":"benefits-frustration-anger","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/yourmorningcupofinspiration\/2019\/09\/benefits-frustration-anger.html","title":{"rendered":"The Benefits of Frustration and Anger"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"administration-adult-african-1089563\"<\/a>Conventional wisdom says that if you want to be a good person, you shouldn\u2019t ever get angry. You shouldn\u2019t ever be frustrated or irritated. Instead, you should be like a happy Buddha, observing the world with an amused benevolence.<\/p>\n

However, I believe that there is value to getting angry. There is value to being annoyed when unjust things happen. Anger is sometimes the one thing that can encourage us to make the world a better place.<\/p>\n

Now, I am not promoting violent or cruel behavior. People who respond to anger in that manner are mentally weak. They are individuals who react without thinking. I am referring to a response to anger that leads people to change their lives or the world for the better.<\/p>\n

For example, most bad relationships don\u2019t end until someone finally gets angry. For instance, I am the type of person who tries to be patient and forgiving. I am fairly tolerant of other people\u2019s flaws, and I try to focus on the best in others. But once I truly get angry with someone, that is it. The relationship is done.<\/p>\n

And in that case, my getting angry is a good thing! It takes some incredibly poor behavior to cause me to end a relationship with someone. And if someone chooses to continually act in a disrespectful or impolite manner, then it is good for the relationship to end.<\/p>\n

Getting angry or irritated doesn\u2019t just inspire us to improve our own lives. It has inspired great people to improve the world. Consider Mahatma Gandhi and Martin Luther King, Jr. They both saw injustice in the world, and it made them angry. But instead of responding to their anger in a violent manner, they responded with peaceful protests that changed the lives of millions of people for the better.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t value the kind of anger that occurs when we don\u2019t get our way. That kind of anger stems from immaturity. I value the kind of anger that we feel when our sense of right and wrong has been violated.<\/p>\n

For instance, when I see people treat others in a cruel or unkind manner, I feel incredibly angry. But for me – and for all of us \u2013 we wonder what is the right response to that anger? We know the correct response isn\u2019t to be cruel and unkind, in turn. But it is hard to say what the right response is in each situation.<\/p>\n

I faced this challenge when I traveled to France this summer. At the beginning of the walk up to Sacr\u00e9-Coeur, one of Paris\u2019 most beautiful cathedrals, there often are two groups of men. These men make their livelihood by physically and verbally harassing unsuspecting visitors to the church.<\/p>\n

Their practice is to approach a tourist, wrap a piece of string around the tourist\u2019s wrist and then aggressively demand money for their string \u201cbracelet.\u201d These men operate in groups of 4 or 5, and they intimidate tourists. The French police do absolutely nothing to stop this criminal behavior.<\/p>\n

One morning, I saw a group of men surround a young Indian father, his wife, and their child who was in a stroller. It was appalling. These men were tying pieces of string around the family’s wrists and demanding money.\u00a0 The father kept yelling, \u201cWe don\u2019t want your string.\u201d This family simply wanted to visit the cathedral. Instead, they endured a horrible and overwhelming experience. It made me so angry. It still does.<\/p>\n

I am ashamed to say that I did nothing when I saw this situation. I just kept walking. It was hard to know what to do. I wasn\u2019t sure if my interference would exacerbate the situation. And I was fearful. These men are very large.<\/p>\n

Sometimes it is hard to know what is the right thing to do when we feel angry about injustice. If we do nothing, we feel powerless. But if we respond with cruelty or violence, we don\u2019t necessarily make the world a better place.<\/p>\n

It takes wisdom to know what to do in response to our anger. Sometimes doing nothing is the answer. For example, ignoring a cruel comment may be the wisest response. And sometimes it isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

The benefit of feeling angry or frustrated is that it forces us out of our complacency. Our anger challenges us to act when faced with injustice. But what is the correct response?<\/p>\n

When we feel angry, the question we need to ask ourselves is this: How can I respond to this unjust situation in a way that improves this relationship or that improves the world? In some cases, ignoring the cruel comment or the unsavory behavior is the right response. And sometimes, we have to act. The key is to act in a way that does no affirmative harm to the other person.<\/p>\n

This week, think about situations that have made you angry. Did something unjust happen, and how did you respond? Think about the ways that you can channel your anger and indignation to improve either the situation or the world to make it just a little bit kinder and more peaceful.<\/p>\n

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Email: yourmorningcupofinspiration@gmail.com<\/p>\n

Books: “The Secrets to Success for the Working Mother” by Meerabelle Dey (https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Secrets-Success-Working-Mother\/dp\/1546329544<\/a>\u00a0)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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