{"id":186,"date":"2009-11-10T16:24:55","date_gmt":"2009-11-10T16:24:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/yourdailyspiritualstimulus\/2009\/11\/moving-from-blame-to-forgiveness.html"},"modified":"2009-11-10T16:24:55","modified_gmt":"2009-11-10T16:24:55","slug":"moving-from-blame-to-forgiveness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/yourdailyspiritualstimulus\/2009\/11\/moving-from-blame-to-forgiveness.html","title":{"rendered":"Moving From Blame to Forgiveness"},"content":{"rendered":"

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When bad things happen and we experience a financial loss or hardship,  it’s not unusual to want
\nto place the blame on something or someone in order to cope with our feelings.  Anger and blame can be a way of feeling in
\ncontrol, but in actuality, it really only leaves us feeling powerless.
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Some people lately are also
\nblaming themselves for their financial challenges, thinking “if only I had
\ndone this” or, “I can’t believe I did that” or, “what was I
\nthinking?!!” This kind of blame only fuels our fear, anger and resentment
\nand deepens the negative charge we have around the problem. <\/span><\/font><\/p>\n

So, how do we release the harmful feelings and
\nnegativity around our financial circumstances?  
\n<\/span><\/font><\/p>\n

Forgiveness is a great tool for releasing negative thought and feelings which can
\nbe toxic and counter-productive. We are all looking for peace; peace of mind,
\nbody and spirit, right? In order to find it, it is very important to examine
\nwhat our own responsibility is in the situation and to own our role in it. Once
\nwe have forgiven ourselves, it is easier to move forward to forgive others who
\nhave hurt or harmed us. <\/p>\n

Beliefnet contributor Joan Borysenko<\/a> says that forgiveness helps us to create
\nmore empowerment, spaciousness and willingness to look at a larger point of
\nview. Another reason to forgive is that it’s good for you! According to author
\nand forgiveness expert Fred Luskin, there is now scientific evidence that
\nthat  forgiveness can reduce anger, depression and stress, which
\nultimately will improve your physical and emotional health. 
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\nHere are some key points to keep in mind when working through your forgiveness
\nprocess. <\/p>\n

1. Forgiveness is first and foremost for you<\/b>. It is about taking back
\nyour power so that you can see and receive the good around you.<\/p>\n

2. Forgiveness allows you to shift your perspective on what is happening<\/b>.
\nRecognize that your primary distress is coming from the hurt feelings and
\nthoughts that are plaguing you, not what offended or hurt you ten minutes — or
\nten years — ago. Whether you are experiencing the loss of a job, your home or
\nretirement savings, this loss is the real issue, not who did it to you.
\nGrieving a loss is an important process in and of itself, but forgiveness is
\nthe first step. Anger often denies us access to the pain of loss. Forgiveness
\nwill help you clear the anger and resentment so that you can begin to feel <\/i>the
\nloss. <\/span><\/font><\/p>\n


\n3. Forgiveness does not mean that you have to make amends with the person<\/b>.
\nThey don’t even have to know because it’s not about them. Forgiveness offers
\nyou the opportunity to be at peace with the situation. This can be as simple as
\nforgiving the investment company who managed your 401K, or Wall Street, or your
\nmortgage broker. Make a list and forgive them so that you can be free of this
\nenergetically and emotionally.<\/p>\n

4. Remember forgiveness is a process<\/b>. It’s not always easy and it takes
\ntime to heal. Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to go through your own
\nprocess. I recommend writing a forgiveness letter to get your feelings on
\npaper. Through writing, you can express your feelings openly either directly to
\nthe person or even to yourself. You do not have to give the letter to the
\nperson you are forgiving, it is your own process for letting go and creating
\nyour “forgiveness story.”<\/p>\n

Ultimately, forgiveness is a step towards greater spiritual and emotional
\nexpansion. It allows you to create the space for letting go of negativie
\nthoughts and feelings so that you can be free of the past and move forward to
\ncreate the next chapter of your life.<\/p>\n

Here’s a wonderful prayer to assist you with this forgiveness process:<\/span>
<\/font><\/p>\n

Dear God,<\/p>\n

Please help me to release all judgements, resentments, mistakes and pain of the past. I no longer wish to be bound by these limitations. Help me
\nto release the past and all its hurt so that I may once again live in
\npeace and experience new possibilities and joy. I forgive myself and
\nall others that may have caused me any harm. I surrender these things completely so that I may create a successful, abundant and prosperous life.
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I surrender the past in order to make
\nroom to fully receive this moment and the future you desire for me. I
\noffer my life as a clean slate into your hands. I choose to be free.
\nThank you for this day and this opportunity to begin again the blessing
\nof this one great life which I willingly and gratefully receive. And so
\nit is. Amen.<\/font> <\/p>\n

~ Deborah Price <\/font><\/p>\n

Peace & Blessings!<\/font>
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