{"id":75,"date":"2009-04-17T17:34:43","date_gmt":"2009-04-17T17:34:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/yourcharmedlife\/2009\/04\/self-esteem-self-worth-and-self-love-part-2.html"},"modified":"2009-04-17T17:34:43","modified_gmt":"2009-04-17T17:34:43","slug":"self-esteem-self-worth-and-self-love-part-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/yourcharmedlife\/2009\/04\/self-esteem-self-worth-and-self-love-part-2.html","title":{"rendered":"Self-esteem, Self-worth, and Self-love, Part 2"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal;margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.75em;margin-left: 0px\">I left you yesterday with a cliffhanger: the three ways I know of to ease the burden of doubt, despair, guilt and shame that can not only build up over a lifetime, but that we take on at birth. (If you didn&#8217;t read the previous post, take a look at it. There I tell of my &#8220;near-birth experience&#8221; that revealed quite a bit.)<\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal;margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.75em;margin-left: 0px\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal;margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.75em;margin-left: 0px\">So, the three ways that I know of to lighten up&#8212;literally&#8212;and come to realize your true value, your true essence are:<\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal;margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.75em;margin-left: 0px\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal;margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.75em;margin-left: 0px\">(1)\u00a0<b>Faith<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: normal\">. People who have conversion or salvation or mystical experiences report how they feel that they&#8217;ve &#8220;cast the burden&#8221; onto a Higher Power. Jesus said, &#8220;Cast your burden upon me, for my yoke is easy and my burden is light.&#8221; I have found that this helps considerably. Even though my humanness prevents me from turning it all over, letting the Divine take all you&#8217;re willing to give is the most helpful action, in my opinion, that anyone can take.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal;margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.75em;margin-left: 0px\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal;margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.75em;margin-left: 0px\">(2)\u00a0<b>Good works<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: normal\">. There are all kinds of debate within Christianity and religion at large about the relative merit of &#8220;faith&#8221; and &#8220;works.&#8221; In my experience, the two dance together as effortlessly as Ginger and Fred. Doing good&#8212;and refraining from doing harm, the Hindu and Jain concept of\u00a0<i>ahimsa<\/i><\/span>, non-harming, dynamic gentleness&#8212;is said to erase unpleasant karma and I feel that it does.<\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal;margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.75em;margin-left: 0px\">\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal;margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.75em;margin-left: 0px\">You ease someone else&#8217;s burden, and yours gets a little lighter. You put light into the world; more of it shines on your life. You live in a way that lessens the suffering on earth&#8212;by adopting a special-needs child or teaching someone to read or not eating meat anymore&#8212;the karmic scales come a little nearer to the balance point.<\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal;margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.75em;margin-left: 0px\"><!--StartFragment--><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">(3) <b>Remembering who You are.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight:normal\"> I capitalized that &#8220;Y&#8221; to signify what the yogis refer to as your<br \/>\nHigher Self, what the Quakers call &#8220;that of God in every man.&#8221; Sure, we all<br \/>\nhave our human faults and foibles and failings, but in addition to this &#8220;little<br \/>\nself&#8221; that&#8217;s here learning lessons and looking for joy and fulfillment, there<br \/>\nis that other part of us that has the answers and knows where the joy and<br \/>\nfulfillment lie. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">I remember the nun in catechism class asking, &#8220;From what did<br \/>\nGod make you?&#8221; and the correct response being, &#8220;God made me from Himself.&#8221; Of<br \/>\ncourse: because there was nothing else! God made us from Himself\/Herself\/Itself<br \/>\nand therefore we are as worthy as all get out. We only have to remember.<\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-style: italic\">Note: There&#8217;s a <a href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=yskaotSBGzg\">new video<\/a> up on YouTube about my upcoming book, <\/span>The Love-Powered Diet: Eating for Freedom, Health, and Joy. <span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-style: italic\">Thanks for taking a look.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">\n<p><!--EndFragment--><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I left you yesterday with a cliffhanger: the three ways I know of to ease the burden of doubt, despair, guilt and shame that can not only build up over a lifetime, but that we take on at birth. (If you didn&#8217;t read the previous post, take a look at it. 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