{"id":74,"date":"2009-04-16T16:55:38","date_gmt":"2009-04-16T16:55:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/yourcharmedlife\/2009\/04\/self-esteem-self-worth-and-self-love.html"},"modified":"2009-04-16T16:55:38","modified_gmt":"2009-04-16T16:55:38","slug":"self-esteem-self-worth-and-self-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/yourcharmedlife\/2009\/04\/self-esteem-self-worth-and-self-love.html","title":{"rendered":"Self-esteem, Self-worth, and Self-love"},"content":{"rendered":"

<\/p>\n

As I look around at the state of the planet and the lives of
\nindividuals—my life-coaching clients’, my friends’, those of people in the
\nnews, and my own—it is clear to me that most of the ills the flesh is heir to
\nderive from one single source: We have forgotten that we’re magnificent.<\/i><\/p>\n

\u00a0This dearth of self-worth, self-esteem, and self-love
\naffects everything we do, infects our relationships, and effectively keeps our
\ndreams at bay. Even people who appear to be egocentric and have a vaulted
\nopinion of themselves are usually using this display of bravado to hide the
\nfact that they feel undeserving of the air they breathe and the space they
\ntake.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\n

\u00a0Some of this lack of self-regard is hereditary, encoded in
\nour DNA. I had a remarkable\u00a0<\/p>\n

\"shealy.jpg\"<\/span><\/p>\n

spiritual experience once at the Shealy Institute
\nfor Comprehensive Health Care, then located in Sprngfield, Missouri. I’d
\nwritten an article about the place that got them so much business, Dr. C. Norman Shealy<\/a>\u00a0(pictured here) invited me there for a free week of holistic treatments, education, and
\namazement. The most amazing was a session with a hypnotherapist who regressed
\nme back to my birth, but—astounding to both of us—I skipped past birth and
\nwent to pre-birth, into the same tunnel people talk about when they report
\nnear-death experiences. <\/p>\n

\u00a0I was speeding through the tunnel at the speed of, I don’t
\nknow, light? All I can say is that it was very, very fast, and coming toward me
\nat equal speed was the Light, this incredible Love as determined to get to me
\nas I was to get to it. When we “collided”—that’s the best term I know of to
\ndescribe it—a tremendous weight was lifted. In the Light I was light.
\nUnburdened. Free.<\/p>\n

\n

\u00a0It was such a relief that I started to cry. I knew in that
\nmoment that what was taken away was the load of low self-esteem, guilt, and
\nshame I took on from my parents (and possibly generations of ancestors—I
\nwasn’t thinking back that far). It was interesting to me how clearly that
\nweight was stamped “inherited.” Of course I have my own karma, but the
\nheaviness I took on with my first breath seemed to be borrowed. Where it
\ncame from and how many tons of it were “mine” and how many were “theirs” is of
\nlittle consequence: the point it, I showed up here and took on a load the likes
\nof which I’d never have expected. We all did. It’s no wonder newborn babies
\ncry.<\/p>\n

\n

I lived in the sunlight of that experience for several
\nweeks. Even now, more than fifteen years<\/p>\n

\"1later, I have only to recall it to get
\ninternally reordered, to see this life right, as what\u00a0Joel Goldsmith\u00a0<\/a>so aptly labeled a “parenthesis in eternity<\/a>.” And yet remembering the freedom I felt in those
\nmoments also reminds of the weight I still carry. It’s lighter than it used to
\nbe. I know of three ways to chip away at it. Because I’ve written so much already
\nand I’m told that blogs are supposed to be short, I’ll follow up with those three insights tomorrow. Have a beautiful evening. Remember your magnificence every chance you
\nget.<\/span><\/p>\n

\n

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