{"id":30,"date":"2009-02-23T02:46:46","date_gmt":"2009-02-23T02:46:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/yourcharmedlife\/2009\/02\/the-fine-art-of-noticing.html"},"modified":"2009-02-23T02:46:46","modified_gmt":"2009-02-23T02:46:46","slug":"the-fine-art-of-noticing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/yourcharmedlife\/2009\/02\/the-fine-art-of-noticing.html","title":{"rendered":"The Fine Art of Noticing"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I was gushing to my husband on the subway Saturday night: &#8220;This was one of the best days of my life!&#8221; This is not the first time I&#8217;ve said something similar. I would be embarrassed by such a display of superlatives, except I really felt it. It sounds like something a child would say, but for me to have a day like this when I was a child would have taken something spectacular like going to Disneyland. Now, it requires only a short series of sparkling events.<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s what happened Saturday:<\/p>\n<p>I was dog-sitting Aspen (you know that if you read the last blog: she&#8217;s my daughter&#8217;s 15-year-old rescue dog), and we went to the top edge of Central Park, 110th St. It was cold but the ducks didn&#8217;t seem to mind and neither did Aspen. I was so happy to be with her and so grateful that her cancer is in remission and she was up for walking in the park.<\/p>\n<p>Then I went to my regular Saturday a.m. writers&#8217; group. I love these people. They remind me that writing for a living is still something a great many of us can do and are doing. They reflect back to me that I am living my dream and that there&#8217;s enough of that dream to go around. Then I had lunch with two colleagues in a cute little Greenwich Village vegetarian cafe called <a href=\"http:\/\/nymag.com\/listings\/restaurant\/snice\/\">S&#8217;nice<\/a>. I&#8217;d never been there before. I felt like Christopher Columbus, discovering something other people already knew about but it was a first to me. <\/p>\n<p>After that, William met me and we walked a very long way &#8212; except that in New York nothing seems far &#8212; to <a href=\"http:\/\/www.mooshoes.com\/\">MooShoes<\/a> on the Lower East Side for William to buy a non-leather belt. I waited for him and leafed through a copy of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.vegnews.com\/web\/home.do\"><i>VegNews<\/i> <\/a>magazine on the counter and saw to my surprise that the publisher, Joseph Donnelly, had included me in a story about his top 10 favorite vegetarian authors. Oh, my gosh! I was so excited I told William and the woman behind the counter. I wanted to jump and twirl like Aspen does when she knows we&#8217;re going for a walk.<\/p>\n<p>Since we were in the neighborhood (more or less), we went to <a href=\"http:\/\/www.organicavenue.com\/products\/index.php\">Organic Avenue<\/a>, a shop (brick-and-mortar and online) offering &#8220;tactical support for a naturalist lifestyle&#8221; and carrying the protein powder I like (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.rawpower.com\/cgi-bin\/index.cgi?af=1004\">Raw Power<\/a>&#8212;hemp, Brazil nut, maca). I met the owner (I think he&#8217;s the owner) and his two dogs, Shalom and Ahimsa. <i>Ahimsa<\/i> is the Sanskrit word for non-harming, &#8220;dynamic kindness.&#8221; A good name for a dog. A good reminder for a human.<\/p>\n<p>And since we were not exactly in the neighborhood but closer than we often get, we hiked to <a href=\"http:\/\/newyork.metromix.com\/restaurants\/desserts\/stogo-east-village\/841210\/content\">Stogo<\/a>, a non-dairy ice cream place on 10th Street just west of 2nd Avenue.&nbsp; I first heard of it when I was reading&nbsp; a gossip magazine at a nail salon and there was a photo of <a href=\"http:\/\/vegetarianstar.com\/2009\/02\/02\/rob-sedgwick-talks-stogo-to-vegetarian-star\/\">Kevin Bacon and Kyra Sedgwick<\/a> enjoying Stogo&#8217;s frozen treats. It seems that Ms. Segwick&#8217;s brother is the owner. Well, we went and the ice cream was amazing (I tried fudge brownie, caramel pecan, and bananas foster before settling on coconut vanilla; William is conservative: he had standard chocolate without sampling anything else), and I struck up a conversation with the proprietor. He told me about a cool new book, <i>The Engine 2 Diet<a href=\"http:\/\/search.barnesandnoble.com\/The-Engine-2-Diet\/Rip-Esselstyn\/e\/9780446506694\">: The Texas Firefighter&#8217;s 28-day Save-Your-Life Plan that Lowers Cholesterol and Burns Away the Pounds<\/a><\/i> , by Rip&nbsp; Esselstyn, who motvated his whole Austin fire house in to adopt a plant-based diet. It turns out I&#8217;ve met his dad, Caldwell Esselstyn, MD, author of <a href=\"http:\/\/search.barnesandnoble.com\/Prevent-and-Reverse-Heart-Disease\/Caldwell-B-Esselstyn\/e\/9781583333006\/?itm=1\"><i>Prevent and Reverse Heart Disease: The&nbsp;<\/i>&nbsp; <i>Revolutionary, Scientifically Proven, Nutriton-Based Cure<\/i><\/a>&#8212;a really terrific book&#8212;when we spoke at the same conference. At that moment everything felt connected and all of a piece. It was as if every step, every &#8220;next right thing&#8221; was divinely guided&#8212;and exquisitely enjoyable. &nbsp; <\/p>\n<p>And on the way home, I told William what an outstanding day I&#8217;d had. He smiled and said, &#8220;I&#8217;m glad you&#8217;re happy.&#8221; He doesn&#8217;t get effusive like me, and he gets a kick out of it when I do. But however any of us expresses our appreciation of life, of a day, of a little gift that crops up from out of the proverbial blue, it seems to me that the very foundation of a charmed life is <i>noticing <\/i>what&#8217;s wonderful. It&#8217;s far better to have some little pleasantry and know that you had it than win the lottery and an Oscar and never realize they were being held for you. <\/p>\n<p>So, my life-coaching advice after my delicious day is:<b> pay attention<\/b>. You miss the great stuff if you&#8217;re lost in worry or regret or working so hard you can&#8217;t see the wonders. Just look up now and then (I&#8217;m telling you and telling myself) and realize that Life is trying like the dickens to lavish you with lovely moments. <a href=\"http:\/\/www.maslow.com\/\">Abraham Maslow<\/a> said that as we progress toward self-actualization, &#8220;peak experiences&#8221; happen more and more. Notice them. Relish them. Expect them. Sometimes they come in coconut vanilla<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I was gushing to my husband on the subway Saturday night: &#8220;This was one of the best days of my life!&#8221; This is not the first time I&#8217;ve said something similar. I would be embarrassed by such a display of superlatives, except I really felt it. 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