{"id":210,"date":"2009-10-12T23:56:51","date_gmt":"2009-10-12T23:56:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/yourcharmedlife\/2009\/10\/30-days-to-a-charmed-life-day-3-commit-to-the-basics.html"},"modified":"2009-10-12T23:56:51","modified_gmt":"2009-10-12T23:56:51","slug":"30-days-to-a-charmed-life-day-3-commit-to-the-basics","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/yourcharmedlife\/2009\/10\/30-days-to-a-charmed-life-day-3-commit-to-the-basics.html","title":{"rendered":"30 days to a charmed life — Day 3: Commit to the basics: meditation"},"content":{"rendered":"

Whatever was on your list yesterday of things you want to accomplish, experience, or enjoy, the foundation for all of it is a simple formula for taking care of yourself, body and soul. You may have heard me say this or read it in some of my work, but you can’t avoid if you want a charmed life: the acronym ME, Meditation and Exercise. We’ll discuss exercise tomorrow. For now: meditation. <\/p>\n

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This is simply taking daily quiet time: first thing in the morning for certain and, if you’re willing, again in the late afternoon, either before you leave work or when you first arrive home. Seasoned meditators say 20 minutes each time, but if you can start with ten, you’re good. If you want to divide the time between prayer and meditation, or journal writing and scripture reading, that’s okay. You just need to take some time apart. This is when you touch the Truth. If you’d like to read more about meditation, I’ll paste a book excerpt to the end of this post. Otherwise, just take your quiet time this afternoon and again in the morning and do it a day a time, when you want to and when you don’t, when you think you have time for it and when you’re sure you haven’t. Trust. This is important.<\/div>\n
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My charmed day today started with work (Monica, my assistant, came and we dug through some details). Then I had a coaching client, lunch (a yummy blended soup of arugula, carrot, tomato, avocado and lemon), the gym (abs\/strech class and cardio with Dr. Phil<\/i>), a chiropractic appointment, and tonight the biggest treat ever, seeing my dear friend, Sherry Boone<\/a>, in the opera she’s been actively working on for seven years, but which started to formulate within her way back in 1992.<\/div>\n
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Sherry is a Broadway and opera performer, and this piece, Ellen Craft<\/i>, is based on the true story of a biracial slave who escaped to freedom with her husband by passing as a sick white man traveling with his manservant. (Yes, she impersonated a man on a 1000-mile journey north by train and boat — incredible.)  It’s an amazing story, and to see my good friend in this role was a high point of my year. I’m still tingly from it.<\/div>\n
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When I arrived at the theater in Chelsea, directly across the street they were doing the premier of the movie, The Stepfather<\/i>. Jim Carey was there, and there was a red carpet, lots of spotlights and paparazzi. I saw those lights for Sherry: they were portending her future.<\/div>\n
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Sherry is not only a great talent; she is also one of my spiritual teachers. “It’s all God,” she likes to say. I couldn’t agree more.<\/div>\n

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To follow is an excerpt from my book <\/i>Fat, Broke & Lonely No More<\/a>, (c) 2007 by Victoria Moran, published by HarperOne, a division of HarperCollins Publishers:<\/i><\/div>\n

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When Doing Nothing Can Give You Everything<\/span><\/p>\n

A while back, I took an inventory of my professional
\nlife. On the left-hand side of the page I wrote every noteworthy success I’d
\nexperienced up until then. On the right side I wrote what I’d done to bring
\nabout each red-letter event. The right column was most illuminating: every
\nentry either said, “Nothing,” or “I showed up.”             <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

It wasn’t that I’d been sitting around watching TV and
\nwaiting for miracles. I did my daily tasks. When I wrote a book or article, or
\nwhen I gave a talk, I gave it everything I had, but every major “break” came
\nfrom out of the ever so accommodating blue. No manipulating, strategizing, or
\nfinagling required. In fact, my best laid plans and manipulations have, for the
\nmost part, fallen on their manipulative faces. I’ve pretty much given up on
\nthem. <\/span><\/p>\n

What this shows me is that we can’t force anything.
\nInstead, our job is to keep the path cleared for the good stuff to ride in on.
\nLike an isometric exercise, this may look like doing nothing. Nothing<\/i><\/span>, however, involves holding the vision of what we
\nwant, staying confident (even when that’s a stretch), doing what’s required in
\nthe moment, and tuning into that barely perceptible inner voice and acting on
\nwhat it says. This last piece is doing nothing cum laude<\/i><\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

The crowing glory of productive inactivity, meditation
\nor contemplation, can dispatch inner emptiness more effectively than any other
\nsingle method. If you charge your cell phone, program your coffee-maker, and
\ngas up your tank, you already know that a full battery, Columbian dark-roast,
\nand unleaded regular are essential to the way you live. Concentrated
\nnothing-doing—sitting in a chair or on the floor in total silence appearing
\nto be, oh my God, wasting time<\/i><\/span>—does
\nfor you as a human entity what you do so automatically for the various machines
\nin your life: power them up.<\/span><\/p>\n

So here’s what you do: nothing! Well, almost. You get
\nup in the morning, light a little candle on the table by your bed, and when you
\ncome back from the bathroom, the candle is there as a reminder that you’re not
\ngoing to jump into your day without charging your soul. To do this, you sit: on
\nthe bed leaning against the headboard, on the floor cross-legged with your back
\nagainst the bed or the wall, or in a chair with both feet on the floor and your
\nhands resting comfortably in your lap. Close your eyes and notice the
\nremarkable fact that you just keep breathing—which is evidence in itself that
\nyou have a reason to be here; otherwise, why wouldn’t your breathing just stop?<\/span><\/p>\n

Once you’ve tuned into the rhythm of your breathing,
\nmatch a silent affirmation to it. Inhale: “I am,” exhale: “enough.” Or inhale
\n“God,” exhale: “loves me.” Or (this is the one I use) inhale: “All is,” exhale:
\n“well.” You can use any short phrase you like as long as it’s positive and
\nsomething with which you sincerely wish to program your mind. Sit there and do
\nthis for ten or fifteen or twenty minutes. Twenty is a little better than ten
\nand ten is enormously better than blowing this off.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll have all sorts of extraneous thoughts (“Is the
\nsprinkler on?” “Do I have clean socks?” “This is dull—why am I doing it?”).
\nDon’t fight the thoughts, but don’t entertain them either. Just give each one a
\nnod and let it float by like a wispy white cloud in an otherwise clear sky.
\nThen come back to your phrase and your breath. <\/span><\/p>\n

Do this every morning. If you miss one, don’t miss the
\nnext one. For even more benefit, meditate again in the early evening—either
\nby staying late at work if there’s a private corner in your office, or doing
\nanother ten, fifteen, or twenty minutes of meditation when you get home. This
\ncan be a lovely way to punctuate the divide between your work day and your
\nprivate life. Bottom line: meditating twice a day is terrific, but meditating
\nonce a day is indispensable. <\/span><\/p>\n

Here’s what’s in it for you: <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00b7      
\n<\/span><\/span>Fullness. After you’ve
\ndone this for awhile and get the hang of it, you’ll feel less needy of whatever
\nyou’ve been needing.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00b7      
\n<\/span><\/span>Calmness. Someone like
\nme (Aries and half Italian) is never going to be non-stop placid, but the
\ndegree of calmness in anyone’s life will increase with regular meditation. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00b7      
\n<\/span><\/span>Insights. Since you’re
\nopening the channels to the best that’s inside you (you’ll sometimes see this
\ncalled your higher self<\/i><\/span>), little
\nbrilliances will just pop up in a way they didn’t before. They’ll come in the
\nform of solutions to problems and as creative ideas. Some of these will just
\ngive you a better a day. One or two of them might give all of us a better
\nworld.<\/span><\/p>\n

Regular meditation is also purported to bring with it
\na plethora of health benefits: lower blood pressure, reduced cholesterol, fewer
\nsick days, a slowing of the aging process. You only get the perks, of course,
\nif you do the practice. That takes commitment and discipline. If you’ve been
\nshort on those, this is a nice, gentle place to learn them. Of course, if you’d
\nrather learn the hard way, that option is always available. I suggest that you
\nmake it easy on yourself and begin the ageless art of focused non-doing this
\nafternoon or first thing tomorrow. Keep it up, and fat, broke and lonely won’t
\nhave a chance.<\/span><\/p>\n

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  • Take an action:<\/i><\/span> Sit in silence for at least ten minutes within
    \nthe next 24 hours. Intend to repeat this practice daily until you’re older
    \nthan you ever thought you’d get. If at first you’re bored or this doesn’t
    \nseem to be doing anything, fantastic. You’re doing it exactly right.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n


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