{"id":236,"date":"2009-04-02T13:59:44","date_gmt":"2009-04-02T13:59:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/windowsanddoors\/2009\/04\/when-love-is-more-important-th.html"},"modified":"2009-04-02T13:59:44","modified_gmt":"2009-04-02T13:59:44","slug":"when-love-is-more-important-th","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/windowsanddoors\/2009\/04\/when-love-is-more-important-th.html","title":{"rendered":"When Love is More Important Than Being Right"},"content":{"rendered":"

Being Right, yes with a capital “R”, the kind of rightness on which we would be willing to stake our lives, is a funny thing – so tempting, so exciting, so good, and so often deadly. When our sense of being right is complete or absolute, which is often the way we think of being really right, especially in matters of faith, look out!
\nIt often leads us to feeling good about going to war, blowing people up, oppressing those who are different from ourselves. Why? “Because we are right.” And that’s often followed up with “I know I am right, because God said so”.
\nApril is National Poetry Month<\/a>, which reminded me of a poem by departed Israeli poet Yehuda Amichai.<\/p>\n


\nAlthough Amichai is dead, his name translates into, Judea (or a Jew), my people lives<\/em>. And his poem, The Place Where We Are Right<\/em>, offers profound insight about how we can find success by balancing our yearning to be right with some modesty in how we go about being right. Here’s how it goes:
\nFrom the place where we are right
\nflowers will never grow
\nin the spring.
\nThe place where we are right
\nis hard and trampled
\nlike a yard.
\nBut doubts and loves
\ndig up the world
\nlike a mole, a plow.
\nAnd a whisper will be heard in the place
\nwhere the ruined
\nhouse once stood.<\/em>
\nSo many times, we feel we are faced with being certain vs. living with doubt — with being correct or with being loving. I know which choices I tend to make, how about you?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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