{"id":6483,"date":"2005-06-20T22:13:35","date_gmt":"2005-06-20T22:13:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/viamedia\/2005\/06\/my-son-walked-out-of-mass.html"},"modified":"2005-06-20T22:13:35","modified_gmt":"2005-06-20T22:13:35","slug":"my-son-walked-out-of-mass","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/viamedia\/2005\/06\/my-son-walked-out-of-mass.html","title":{"rendered":"My son walked out of Mass"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>No, really.<\/p>\n<p>First, let me tell you about this one &#8211; the oldest. He&#8217;s 22, almost 23, a sports lover, a video editor, loves horrible music, goes to Atlanta and other points north,south, east and west all the time for concerts of that same music, etc. He has a pierced ear, and works out and is just the most regular young man around.<\/p>\n<p>And yesterday, he walked out of Mass.<\/p>\n<p>Why? <\/p>\n<p>&quot;It was a circus. It was all about being social.&quot;<\/p>\n<p>Knock me down with a feather. <\/p>\n<p>He usually doesn&#8217;t go to the campus parish because, well, he doesn&#8217;t like it, but yesterday, the Mass time was good for his plans for the rest of the day. So he went. What I could get out of him was that there was a baptism during Mass, and the priest went all call-and-response, had the people repeat their responses to the baptismal promise renewals, shouting, encouraging hollering, and so on, and that after the baptism the priest took a little break to go get some paperwork or something (I&#8217;m kind of fuzzy at this point) and people were wandering around the gathering space, socializing, and it was pretty raucus.<\/p>\n<p>&quot;I was offended.&quot;<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s exactly what he said.<\/p>\n<p>So he walked out. He said, &quot;I got some dirty looks, but I just said, go ahead and have a good time at your hootenanny.&quot; (Actually, he didn&#8217;t say &quot;hootenanny,&quot; but I can&#8217;t recall exactly what he said right this second)<\/p>\n<p>And off he went to the Cathedral. The boy likes his church to be church.<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s what I say&nbsp; &#8211; it&#8217;s not my particular influence. I&#8217;ve been clear when I see liturgical insanity, but I also have tried to spin the same line I do here &#8211; Mass is Mass: pray, join with others in that prayer, focus on Jesus. We&#8217;ve always attended just really normal parishes, for good or for ill.<\/p>\n<p>What&#8217;s really clear to me is that someone else is at working here, and I&#8217;m thinking it must be his grandmother, my mother, (whose cause and pain was the liturgy),&nbsp; praying for him, from heaven, watching over him, still having an impact on him.<\/p>\n<p>I really think so. <\/p>\n<p>And I&#8217;m glad. And grateful.<\/p>\n<p>And still in a mild state of shock.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>(p.s.) &#8211; it&#8217;s not that I&#8217;m an advocate of leaving Mass (note that he did go to another whole Mass somewhere else &#8211; 1 1\/2 Masses for him on Sunday!), but that he&#8217;s taking the whole thing quite seriously &#8211; I&#8217;m so very happy to see that&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>No, really. First, let me tell you about this one &#8211; the oldest. 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