{"id":43,"date":"2008-11-30T07:37:25","date_gmt":"2008-11-30T07:37:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/tonyjones\/2008\/11\/comment-of-the-weekend.html"},"modified":"2008-11-30T07:37:25","modified_gmt":"2008-11-30T07:37:25","slug":"comment-of-the-weekend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/tonyjones\/2008\/11\/comment-of-the-weekend.html","title":{"rendered":"Comment of the Weekend"},"content":{"rendered":"

Several commenters have questioned my inclusion of the “B” in GLBTQ, suggesting that bisexual persons don’t fit under the monogamy that I endorse.  But PSUdain<\/a> clarifies on my behalf:<\/p>\n

\n

There seems to be a running confusion here about the nature of
\nbisexuality. I have seen it so far in two comments and it is likely in
\nmore. It generally seems to be along the lines of, “Bisexuals want
\nmultiple partners.”<\/p>\n

This is not the case! A bisexual person may fall in love with a
\nperson of either the same or the opposite gender. But this relationship
\nis just as monogamous as one between two heterosexuals. However, when
\ndating and pre-marriage, a bisexual person may end up dating both men
\nand women over time before settling down with one person in the end,
\njust like a homosexual\/heterosexual person may date several people of
\nthe same\/opposite gender over time before finding one with whom s\/he
\nwishes to continue in a closer relationship.<\/p>\n

There is a word for a person who enters into a mutual relationship
\nwith more than two participants (who may be of any gender) total. This
\nword is “polyamorous”. We could discuss that separately, but we should
\ntake care not to confuse it with bisexuality. (Also, I do believe that
\nwe would be mostly in agreement on polyamory, so it would be a pretty
\nuninteresting discussion.)<\/p>\n

This is, alas, a common misconception, and I hope that I can help to clear it up.<\/p>\n

While it may seem ridiculous or foolish to make and maintain these
\ndistinctions, they are vital to a good discussion. Because if we have
\ndifferent views as to what a word means, then we cannot properly
\ncommunicate when we use that word. Also, to discuss something we must
\nbe able to either name or describe that ‘something’ during the
\ndiscussion.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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