{"id":471,"date":"2010-12-24T09:02:38","date_gmt":"2010-12-24T09:02:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/thinplaces\/2010\/12\/is-it-hard-to-be-a-christian-at-christmas.html"},"modified":"2010-12-24T09:02:38","modified_gmt":"2010-12-24T09:02:38","slug":"is-it-hard-to-be-a-christian-at-christmas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thinplaces\/2010\/12\/is-it-hard-to-be-a-christian-at-christmas.html","title":{"rendered":"Is it Hard to be a Christian at Christmas?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><!--StartFragment--><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt\"><font face=\"Arial\" size=\"5\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 17px\"><br \/>\n<!--StartFragment--><br \/>\n<\/span><\/font><\/p>\n<p><font face=\"Arial\" size=\"5\"><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt\"><span><font><font>A few<br \/>\nyears ago, a Jewish student in the boarding school where we lived came to my<br \/>\napartment in tears. Her dormitory was filled, top to bottom, with Christmas.<br \/>\nWreaths. Lights. Bows. Secret Santas. She just didn&#8217;t want to feel so<br \/>\ndifferent, so excluded, so&#8230; Jewish.<\/font><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt\"><font><font><br \/><\/font><\/font><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt\"><font><font><span><\/span>She came<br \/>\nto my apartment with a friend, a Christian. And as we started to talk the<br \/>\nChristian student shared some of the same thoughts. Bows and wreaths and Secret<br \/>\nSantas weren&#8217;t really connected to Christmas for her as a Christian. In fact,<br \/>\nthey were distractions. Fun, maybe. But they seemed like ways to avoid the<br \/>\ndramatic idea of God coming into the world in the form of a baby. In the<br \/>\ncontext of holiday decorations and Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer, this<br \/>\nChristian student felt so different, so excluded, so&#8230; Christian.<\/font><\/font><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt\"><span><font><font>&nbsp;<\/font><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt\"><span><font><font>The<br \/>\nChristian student demonstrated compassion for her Jewish friend, and she wasn&#8217;t<br \/>\ntrying to say that their experience was the same. And yet there were points in<br \/>\ncommon. I talked to both of them about the privilege it can be to know yourself<br \/>\nas set apart. Their religious identities differentiated them from their<br \/>\nholiday-loving peers. Living in their dorm in December felt awkward,<br \/>\nalienating, upsetting, and yet I urged them to consider how it also helped them<br \/>\nto define themselves in terms of their own core values, family traditions, and<br \/>\nreligious beliefs.&nbsp;<\/font><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt\"><span><font><font>&nbsp;<\/font><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt\"><font size=\"4\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 15px\"><br \/><\/span><\/font><\/p>\n<p><\/font><\/p>\n<p><!--more--><br \/>\n<span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: Arial;font-size: x-large\"><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;margin-left: 0px;border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal\"><span><font><font>Two recent articles reminded me of those conversations. First, there&#8217;s Ross Douthat&#8217;s column in the New York Times, &#8220;<\/font><\/font><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2010\/12\/20\/opinion\/20douthat.html\"><span><font><font>A Tough Season for Believers<\/font><\/font><\/span><\/a><font><font>.&#8221; Douthat shares the view of the Christian student mentioned above&#8211;all this tinsel and mistletoe is not at all what I believe in, so how should I respond? He calls for engagement with the culture around us, a response based upon the Word made flesh, full of grace and truth. Douthat&#8217;s article is worth reading on the whole, but I particularly appreciated his concluding line:&nbsp;<\/font><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;margin-left: 0px;border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal\"><span><font><font><br \/><\/font><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;margin-left: 0px;border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal;line-height: 22pt\"><i><font><font>Christians need to find a way to thrive in a society that looks less and less like any sort of Christendom &#8212; and more and more like the diverse and complicated Roman Empire where their religion had its beginning, 2,000 years ago this&nbsp;week<\/font><\/font><\/i><font><font>.<\/font><\/font><span><font><font>&nbsp;<\/font><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;margin-left: 0px;border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal;line-height: 22pt\"><span><font><font><br \/><\/font><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;margin-left: 0px;border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal\"><span><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/thinplaces\/atheistsbillboard.jpg\"><span><font><font><\/font><\/font><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;margin-left: 0px;border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal\"><font><font><span><\/span><\/font><\/font><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"mt-enclosure mt-enclosure-image\" style=\"margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0px;margin-left: 0px;border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/thinplaces\/assets_c\/2010\/12\/atheistsbillboard-thumb-200x121-20471.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Thumbnail image for atheistsbillboard.jpg\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/113\/import\/assets_c\/2010\/12\/atheistsbillboard-thumb-200x121-20471-thumb-200x121-20472.jpg\" width=\"200\" height=\"121\" class=\"mt-image-left\" style=\"border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;float: left;margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 20px;margin-bottom: 20px;margin-left: 0px\" \/><\/a><\/span><font><font>I&#8217;ve also come across a few articles related to an advertising campaign by various atheist groups who want to debunk the myth of Christmas. In case you can&#8217;t read the print on the photo, this one reads: &#8220;You KNOW it&#8217;s a Myth. This Season, Celebrate REASON.&#8221; As&nbsp;James McKinley&nbsp;<\/font><\/font><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2010\/12\/14\/us\/14atheist.html\"><span><font><font>reports<\/font><\/font><\/span><\/a><font><font>&nbsp;for the New York Times, similar ads have shown up on the sides of busses, with taglines such as &#8220;Millions of people are good without God.&#8221; One atheist in support of the ads said, &#8220;&#8221;It can be pretty lonely for a nonbeliever at Christmastime around here. There is so much religion,&#8221; Mr. McDonald said. &#8220;We thought, &#8216;What the heck? Nobody owns December.&#8217;&nbsp;&#8220;<\/font><\/font><\/span><\/p>\n<div><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: Arial;font-size: x-large\"><font><font><\/font><\/font><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;margin-left: 0px;border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal\"><font><font><br \/><\/font><\/font><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"margin-top: 0px;margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;margin-left: 0px;border-top-width: 0px;border-right-width: 0px;border-bottom-width: 0px;border-left-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;font-size: 1em;font-weight: normal\"><font><font>Christians think it&#8217;s hard at Christmastime. Jews think it&#8217;s hard too. Atheists are lonely. I can only imagine that the remainder of the religious spectrum shares a similar response to the hubbub of December. Funny. Might Christmas be a season that opens up dialogue among religious groups&#8211;Christians included&#8211;who feel alienated by American culture? Perhaps the fact that many Americans have lost sight of the &#8220;reason for the season&#8221; will actually inspire conversation and connection. Perhaps our response to Christmas will bring together a surprisingly diverse range of people. Perhaps it will remind us of a baby born in a manger, welcomed by both the shepherds and the kings.&nbsp;<\/font><\/font><\/p>\n<p><\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A few years ago, a Jewish student in the boarding school where we lived came to my apartment in tears. Her dormitory was filled, top to bottom, with Christmas. Wreaths. Lights. Bows. Secret Santas. 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