{"id":984,"date":"2012-02-01T10:00:03","date_gmt":"2012-02-01T15:00:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/thequeenofmyself\/?p=984"},"modified":"2012-01-31T18:17:22","modified_gmt":"2012-01-31T23:17:22","slug":"a-place-called-home","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/2012\/02\/a-place-called-home.html","title":{"rendered":"A Place Called “Home”"},"content":{"rendered":"

I have grown to love winter. It is a time of being home and laying low. A time of making soup and catching up on my ironing. A time of long, indulgent hot baths and slow starting mornings in bed with a cup of tea and a good book.<\/em><\/p>\n

During February I will be sharing articles about Domestic Queens, Introverted Queens, Privacy Seeking Queens, Self-Loving Queens, and Literary Queens. And as always, I ask you to please share your stories on these themes.<\/em><\/p>\n

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A Place Called “Home”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sister Joan Chittister<\/a>
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In each of us there is a place where we go in the middle of chaos to escape from the fray. It is that \u201chome\u201d place, that hiding place, that soft place where no memories of it come with ragged edges and no thought of it is tinged with fear. It\u2019s an empty beach, perhaps. Or a hidden place on the bluff above town where we remember being able to see everything while no one could see us.<\/p>\n

It is the place of our dreams and the hope of our hopes.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s that place to which we return in our minds to change life in the middle of too much life for us to take just then.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s that natural place within us where the roar of the water or the silence of the mountains or the warmth of the desert or the moss of the swamp soothes our souls and makes us feel human again, at one with the universe again, in control again.<\/p>\n

Whatever it is, wherever it is, it calms us and makes us new again.<\/p>\n

For me, ironically, that special place was right in the center of the city. In the very shadows of the city buildings lay a world beyond the world. It was the public dock on the bay of one of the Great Lakes, where tourists came to fish and sail and ride on a water taxi from the mainland over to the peninsula. Nothing more than a hotdog was ever sold there. There were no bands, no arcade games, no skate-board parks. It was commercially non-commercial. And yet it was my own small planet. There in that place everyone walked more slowly than usual, talked in more measured tones, dared to sit alone on the breakwall in total silence. There you could simply be yourself, no airs, no deadlines, no pressure, nothing false to serve or adore. Nothing that required us to bow down before it. There we just all melted into nature.<\/p>\n

It is that kind of place of which the Flemish artist, Pieter Bruegel, the Elder, paints. His work, called genre painting, is a call to us to understand the relationships we build between who we are and where we are. He reminds us of our place in the universe, small, simple and sustained by the world around us.<\/p>\n

In our own day, when technology has trumped nature, we would do well to sink into Bruegel\u2019s work and remember who we are. We would do well to realize that those \u201chome\u201d places we all need and seek out in a time of the mechanical, the digital, the virtual and the plastic are calling us to the center of our real selves. We must remember that it is the self\u00a0for which we are seeking when we leave our worlds of glitz and glamour and sink into the real world. It is environment that shapes us and it is the natural to which we must, like Bruegel, cling when everyone else abandons it or lose the very soul of our lives.<\/p>\n

*****<\/p>\n

Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife.<\/a> She is the Midlife Midwife\u2122 offering counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE\u2122<\/a><\/p>\n

The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.<\/a><\/p>\n

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