{"id":819,"date":"2011-11-08T10:00:25","date_gmt":"2011-11-08T15:00:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/thequeenofmyself\/?p=819"},"modified":"2011-11-05T15:41:15","modified_gmt":"2011-11-05T19:41:15","slug":"819","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/2011\/11\/819.html","title":{"rendered":"Why Midlife Rocks Your World – Part 1"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I have been inundated lately by articles about the so-called \u201cMidlife Crisis.\u201d Clearly it is subject very much on the minds of many, many women.<\/em><\/p>\n

Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media \u2014 that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don\u2019t need? (Not only do we not need these cosmetic and quasi-medical accoutrements, they are downright insulting and sometimes even dangerous.)\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

These writings cover the gamut of opinions, ideas, and suggestions about coping with a Midlife Crisis, ours or someone else\u2019s. I offer them up to you to for your interest and edification.<\/em><\/p>\n

As always, I invite you to send me your stories<\/a> \u2014 experiences, advice, and inspiration to share with our community of Midlife Queens.<\/em><\/p>\n

Midlife Crisis or Midlife Consciousness? You choose!<\/em><\/p>\n

xxQueen Mama Donna<\/em><\/p>\n

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Why Midlife Rocks Your World -Part 2<\/strong><\/p>\n

By Kathy Caprino<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Why is midlife a time of major transition?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve observed that the following contribute to our re-awakening in midlife and wanting change:<\/p>\n

1)\u00a0 A time of reckoning and re-evaluation \u2013 Realizing that your life is potentially more than half over is a jarring experience, and brings with it a sense of urgency to live more authentically, more joyfully. At 50, we just want different things than we did at 30.<\/p>\n

2)\u00a0 Kids are out of the house \u2013 Without the pressing parenting responsibilities that can be all-consuming, there\u2019s room to think, room to breathe, and quiet space to hear yourself dream.<\/p>\n

3)\u00a0 Friends start to die \u2013 My husband and I discussed this just yesterday, that a number of our 50+-year-old friends have died \u2013 from sudden illness, cancer, heart attack, etc. When your friends die, you think hard.<\/p>\n

4)\u00a0 Longings won\u2019t be suppressed \u2013 After working so hard crafting a \u201csuccessful\u201d life, we get tired of it.\u00a0 Instead of some outward version of \u201csuccess,\u201d we long for joy, excitement, passion, peace \u2014 we want to live life more fully, on our terms.<\/p>\n

5) We know how to speak up \u2013 We won\u2019t be talked down to anymore. We\u2019ve lived through that, and we\u2019ve learned how to stand up, speak up and power up. We won\u2019t tolerate put downs, manipulation or pressure like we used to.<\/p>\n

6)\u00a0 We\u2019ve finally earned it \u2013 Finally, after all you\u2019ve strived for, accomplished, created, and achieved, you know what you\u2019re capable of.\u00a0 You won\u2019t stand for less. You have the confidence and the courage to embrace the idea that\u2019s been skulking around in your mind for years. You\u2019re ready to admit, \u201cThis can\u2019t be all there is. I know there\u2019s more for me.\u201d<\/p>\n

So, my friends, if you\u2019re in midlife and wondering why everything looks and feels different, don\u2019t be alarmed.\u00a0 It\u2019s a natural, normal life progression \u2013 a stage that doesn\u2019t have to represent hell.<\/p>\n

But don\u2019t resist it and break yourself against it like a rock \u2013 embrace it.\u00a0 Let yourself look into the deep recesses of your heart, mind, and soul, to find clues of who you want to become now, and what you want to create in this next thrilling chapter. It\u2019s a new time, waiting for a fuller, more expansive you.<\/p>\n

Midlife can pave the way to a glorious reclamation of your passion, power and purpose \u2013 go for it!<\/p>\n

*****<\/p>\n

Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife<\/a><\/em>. She is the Midlife Midwife\u2122 offering counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE\u2122<\/a><\/p>\n

The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com.<\/a><\/p>\n

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