{"id":71,"date":"2010-08-13T10:00:00","date_gmt":"2010-08-13T10:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/thequeenofmyself\/2010\/08\/the-liberation-of-letting-go.html"},"modified":"2010-08-13T10:00:00","modified_gmt":"2010-08-13T10:00:00","slug":"the-liberation-of-letting-go","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/2010\/08\/the-liberation-of-letting-go.html","title":{"rendered":"The Liberation of Letting Go"},"content":{"rendered":"

Here are some wise words from Queens:<\/i><\/p>\n

Letting Go Takes Love<\/p>\n

To let go does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can’t do it for someone else.<\/p>\n

To let go is not to cut myself off,
it’s the realization I can’t control another.<\/p>\n

To let go is not to enable,
but allow learning from natural consequences.<\/p>\n

To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means
the outcome is not in my hands.<\/p>\n

To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
it’s to make the most of myself.<\/p>\n

To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.<\/p>\n

To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.<\/p>\n

To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.<\/p>\n

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their destinies.<\/p>\n

To let go is not to be protective,
it’s to permit another to face reality.<\/p>\n

To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.<\/p>\n

To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.<\/p>\n

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.<\/p>\n

To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.<\/p>\n

To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.<\/p>\n

To let go is to fear less and love more. <\/p>\n

-Author unknown<\/p>\n

Liberation<\/p>\n

Needed to be pruned
In order to bloom
Too much dead wood
Keeps us stagnant
Rigid, unyielding
Conforming to pre-suggestion
I got tired of dragging yesterday around
Like a dead co-joined twin
Took a pair of shears to that
Albatross dangling from my neck
There is huge freedom
In surrender…<\/p>\n

– \u00a9 Alison Stormwol, Scotlandf<\/a><\/p>\n

***
The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol\/com<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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