{"id":594,"date":"2011-08-02T10:00:02","date_gmt":"2011-08-02T14:00:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/thequeenofmyself\/?p=594"},"modified":"2011-07-24T13:19:36","modified_gmt":"2011-07-24T17:19:36","slug":"594","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/2011\/08\/594.html","title":{"rendered":"How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways \u2013 Part 1"},"content":{"rendered":"

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It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content \u2014 or steam, whichever comes first.<\/em><\/p>\n

Here is the first of three parts of a long piece with lots of suggestions for ways to go about developing love for ourselves by a sister Queen in Singapore:<\/em><\/p>\n

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How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways \u2013 Part 1<\/strong><\/p>\n

By Evelyn Lim<\/a>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

When I first began to be aware that I need to love myself first, prior to developing any meaningful relationships with others, I realized that I did not know where to start.<\/p>\n

In my younger days, I\u2019ve spent much time looking for the best spouse or romantic partner. But I soon realized that my search was meant to fill the void or emptiness I had inside. Finding a good relationship with myself seemed to be an even harder task! However, as things turned out, I found myself failing miserably in my early relationships because I had insufficient or little self love.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve suffered from low self esteem, then the root cause can be a lack in self-love. It is possible that you will find it hard to find that little bit of love for yourself. I dare say that your mind has been so ingrained with self-sabotaging thoughts for the longest time, that loving yourself sounds unnatural to you.<\/p>\n

However, nothing is going to happen if you do not make a conscious decision. And that includes Attracting Abundance. When you don\u2019t love yourself, you are basically telling the Universe that you are unworthy or undeserving of any love or positive outcomes that have the same vibrational match as love.<\/p>\n

Learning to love yourself starts with making a conscious decision, an intention to become happy and lead a fulfilled life. When you do not love yourself and suffer from low self-esteem, it is almost impossible to ever reach the potential that you suspect you have.<\/p>\n

When you make a decision to love yourself, you are really saying that you want to come alive. You accept that you are responsible for the outcomes that you experience in your life and would like yourself to shine from living a fulfilling life.<\/p>\n

So if you\u2019ve decided on loving yourself but are as equally stumped on how to love yourself, as I was back then, here are 17 ways which I believe can be helpful:<\/p>\n

1. Fall in love with yourself. Think about what makes you You. Just like a flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurture yourself in every way. Love yourself for all the good that you see and accept your flaws and the fact that you are imperfect. This does not mean that you do not learn to change from your shortcomings; instead, you are being gentle and kind to yourself despite all your \u201cflaws.\u201d Look in the mirror and fall in love with the reflection that is You.<\/p>\n

Tomorrow: How to Love Yourself in 17 Ways \u2013 Part 2<\/em><\/p>\n

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Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife<\/em><\/a>. She is the Midlife Midwife\u2122 offering counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE\u2122 <\/a><\/p>\n

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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It is summer, hot and horny, and I am on a roll. So I am going to continue this theme of beauty, attraction, seduction, sex, love and self-love until I run out of content \u2014 or steam, whichever comes first.<\/p>\n

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