{"id":437,"date":"2011-06-03T10:00:23","date_gmt":"2011-06-03T14:00:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/thequeenofmyself\/?p=437"},"modified":"2011-05-28T13:18:38","modified_gmt":"2011-05-28T17:18:38","slug":"believe-in-yourself-part-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/2011\/06\/believe-in-yourself-part-2.html","title":{"rendered":"Believe in Yourself! – Part 2"},"content":{"rendered":"

June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy.<\/em><\/p>\n

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But while June is the jolly season for Brides and Grooms, Brides and Brides and Grooms and Grooms, it is important to remember that the most primary and important love is that of Self Love. All relationships are built on the respect, esteem and affection that we have for our self. <\/em><\/p>\n

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Believe in Yourself! – Part 2<\/strong><\/p>\n

By Cheryl Saban, PH.D.<\/a> <\/strong><\/p>\n

Belief in yourself isn\u2019t just a good thing to do; it\u2019s a survival skill. And giving yourself a pat on the back for being a sentient being with ability, heart, potential, and immeasurable possibilities, is directly related to your quality of life. You need to feel worthwhile. You need to believe that you can affect circumstances and situations in your life in order to have the confidence and courage you\u2019ll need to meet the many challenges you face.<\/p>\n

But, okay, that said, how do you start believing in yourself when you\u2019re so used to being a non-believer? How do you begin to care about being you, if you\u2019ve become habituated to feeling so hopeless, or helpless that you project the message that you don\u2019t care at all? The short answer is, by taking personal responsibility for doing so. Class dismissed.<\/p>\n

Okay, so perhaps it\u2019s not that easy. And it would be truly disingenuous of me to trivialize the difficulties many people face \u2013 and that is not my goal. Still, those who study happiness state that the only way to be truly happy, is to decide to be happy. It starts with you – your own perceptions of you, your abilities, and your potential. Actually, nobody else can truly devalue you, but you.<\/p>\n

This power is entirely yours, and is manifested by an attitude you come up with in your own mind. You can thank Victor Frankl, among others, for proving this. Dr. Frankl was a holocaust survivor who realized during his captivity in Auschwitz that the only thing his captors couldn\u2019t take from him was his mental life \u2013 his spiritual life. He was able to find meaning even in the most painful of situations. Though this is perhaps an extreme example, you can try to follow his lead. Choose your thoughts \u2013 change your attitude, and decide to believe in yourself. You\u2019ll soon attract a happier experience into your personal universe and feel energized with a sense of freedom and independence.<\/p>\n

Belief in yourself may begin as a small light at the end of a tunnel – a glow, a feeling of hoping, and then knowing. It\u2019s an awareness that though you can\u2019t change any of the facts of your life, you can change the way you think about those facts.<\/p>\n

Once you have the attitude that you\u2019re worth the effort, you\u2019ll find it easier to start taking care of you. Eat responsibly, treat your mind and body to regular exercise and take time to enjoy nature, and breathe fresh air. Listen to soothing music, read interesting books, take warm baths, listen to the sounds of nature, and laugh belly laughs. Cuddle up with someone you care about, get and give plenty of hugs, compassion and empathy, and honor and treasure your family members. These are all important activities for wellness.<\/p>\n

Remember that your body is a temple, and you are a treasure. You are unique, precious, and one-of-a-kind. Believe that you have a right to be here; that you are worth the effort of saving, educating, healing, playing with, working with, loving, and sharing a lifetime with.<\/p>\n

Say the following words like a mantra. \u201cI believe I am worth believing in.\u201d Say these words every day. You\u2019ll be amazed how the universe will contrive to make it so.<\/p>\n

*****<\/p>\n

Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife<\/em><\/a>. She is the Midlife Midwife\u2122 offering counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.<\/p>\n

Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE\u2122: http:\/\/www.donnahenes.net\/queen\/consult.shtml<\/a><\/p>\n

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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