{"id":435,"date":"2011-06-02T10:00:52","date_gmt":"2011-06-02T14:00:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/thequeenofmyself\/?p=435"},"modified":"2011-05-28T13:11:09","modified_gmt":"2011-05-28T17:11:09","slug":"believe-in-yourself-part-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/2011\/06\/believe-in-yourself-part-1.html","title":{"rendered":"Believe in Yourself! – Part 1"},"content":{"rendered":"

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June is traditionally the month for weddings and it is also now celebrated as Gay Pride month. Love is in the air all around. This is a juicy time of making whoopy.<\/em><\/p>\n

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But while June is the jolly season for Brides and Grooms, Brides and Brides and Grooms and Grooms, it is important to remember that the most primary and important love is that of Self Love. All relationships are built on the respect, esteem and affection that we have for our self. <\/em><\/p>\n

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Believe in Yourself! – Part 1<\/strong><\/p>\n

By Cheryl Saban, PH.D.<\/a> <\/strong><\/p>\n

Are you one of your biggest fans? Do you think you\u2019re capable and worthy? Would you pick yourself to be on your team? If you answered “no” to any of the above questions, you could use an attitude change and a healthful infusion of personal esteem.<\/p>\n

Self-esteem is described as confidence in one\u2019s own worth or abilities, and pertains to a personal appraisal of ourselves. Yet, unfortunately, we often make this evaluation based on cues we receive from society. In other words, we look to others to establish who we are, how we should behave, and how we\u2019re valued, even though this societal reflection won\u2019t be an accurate indicator of what you\u2019re made of.<\/p>\n

Trying to measure up to a dominant mindset, antiquated cultural rules, or stigmatizing stereotypes that don\u2019t serve you well isn\u2019t the best plan. Using such subjective measuring devices may also explain why you don\u2019t always feel like a good fit. Bottom line, try not to rely totally on the outside world to validate you. A better option is to equalize the playing field by believing in, and validating yourself.<\/p>\n

By the way, if you\u2019re concerned about spending too much time and effort on numero uno, try remembering that you can\u2019t be of great help to others if you don\u2019t care much about yourself. Believing in yourself doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re conceited, overly self-centered, or narcissistic. It\u2019s simply part of an overall self-care strategy for wellness and contentment. It means that you recognize the true who of you \u2013 your core being, the special present of your presence \u2013 in other words, your innate worth.<\/p>\n

Tomorrow Believe in Yourself! Part 2<\/em><\/p>\n

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Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife<\/em><\/a>. She is the Midlife Midwife\u2122 offering counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity.<\/p>\n

Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE\u2122: http:\/\/www.donnahenes.net\/queen\/consult.shtml<\/a><\/p>\n

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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