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Here is another inspiring story of empowerment sent in by a sister Queen reader. Thanks to all of you who are willing to share your experiences of personal empowerment. Please do keep them coming.<\/em><\/p>\n

Learning to Approve of Me<\/strong>
\nBy Joyce Rothman<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

LESSONS FROM CANCER: Making Sense of it All<\/strong><\/p>\n

Low self esteem and the desperate need for approval has plagued me since childhood. Never thinking I was enough, surely everyone else knew better than me what I should do or how I needed to act. Or so I thought.<\/p>\n

It took cancer to change my perspective and now my decisions are less often based on what other people think.\u00a0 Living life with this diagnosis has resulted in knowing and trusting myself so much more. With trust comes self confidence and the strength to reject another\u2019s negative judgment.\u00a0 I see myself in a new brighter light that I can now turn on without first needing to wait for someone else\u2019s approval.<\/p>\n

I never would have thought that cancer would empower me to live my life in a way that takes a lot of angst away. I realize that it is mine to learn from and make decisions for, not anyone else\u2019s; as much as they are to live their own and do the same. Besides, how could I know what is best for another when I\u2019ve not had their unique experience? Even though there is much in common that we do share, we are each our own person. I find that I\u2019m getting much better at learning to not judge others too and these are truly gifts of the highest kind.<\/p>\n

Surprisingly, cancer is giving me freedom from self-doubt and fear and blessing me with self-confidence and contentment. It lets me be me so I can finally live as I choose. It occurs to me that I am actually learning how to complete myself and it feels pretty good.<\/p>\n

Facing a major illness separates much of the small stuff from what is truly important I\u2019m getting the courage to stand up for what I believe is right for me. I\u2019m also living more into the moment because I know that if I\u2019m thinking about the future, I miss out on enjoying what I do have now.\u00a0 Yes, it is amazing that cancer is giving me such important life lessons and allowing me to live with more self-love and authenticity than I ever thought possible. For this, I am so very grateful.<\/p>\n

* Please send me your thoughts about power. Also stories of your own empowerment. When shared, these ideas and examples are extremely inspiring to others. Thanks.<\/em><\/p>\n

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