{"id":2332,"date":"2017-08-28T06:00:16","date_gmt":"2017-08-28T10:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/?p=2332"},"modified":"2017-08-18T18:10:40","modified_gmt":"2017-08-18T22:10:40","slug":"10-thing-time-taught","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/2017\/08\/10-thing-time-taught.html","title":{"rendered":"10 Thing Time Has Taught Me"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\n1. Most of our life is spent chasing false goals and worshipping false ideals. The day you realise that is the day you really start to live.<\/p>\n

2. You really, truly cannot please all of the people all of the time. Please yourself first and your loved ones second, everyone else is busy pleasing themselves anyway, trust me.<\/p>\n

3. Fighting the ageing process is like trying to catch the wind. Go with it, enjoy it. Your body is changing, but it always has been. Don\u2019t waste time trying to reverse that, instead change your mindset to see the beauty in the new.<\/p>\n

4. Nobody is perfect and nobody is truly happy with their lot. When that sinks in you are free of comparison and free of judgment. It\u2019s truly liberating.<\/p>\n

5. No one really sees what you do right, everyone sees what you do wrong. When that becomes clear to you, you will start doing things for the right reason and you will start having so much more fun.<\/p>\n

6. You will regret the years you spent berating your looks, the sooner you can make peace with the vessel your soul lives in, the better. Your body is amazing and important but it does not define you.<\/p>\n

7. Your health is obviously important but stress, fear and worry are far more damaging than any delicious food or drink you may deny yourself. Happiness and peace are the best medicine.<\/p>\n

8. Who will remember you and for what, become important factors as you age. Your love and your wisdom will live on far longer than any material thing you can pass down. Tell your stories, they can travel farther than you can imagine.<\/p>\n

9. We are not here for long but if you are living against the wind it can feel like a life-sentence.\u00a0Life should not feel like a chore, it should feel like an adventure.<\/p>\n

10. Always, always, drink the good champagne and use the things you keep for \u2018best\u2019. Tomorrow is guaranteed to no one. Today is a gift that\u2019s why we call it the present. Eat, Drink & Be Merry.<\/p>\n

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\nDonna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife.<\/a> She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE\u2122<\/a><\/p>\n

The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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