{"id":2114,"date":"2016-10-19T06:00:37","date_gmt":"2016-10-19T10:00:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/?p=2114"},"modified":"2016-10-14T15:32:52","modified_gmt":"2016-10-14T19:32:52","slug":"13-fucks-stop-giving-youre-grown-woman","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/2016\/10\/13-fucks-stop-giving-youre-grown-woman.html","title":{"rendered":"13 Fucks You Stop Giving When You\u2019re A Grown Woman"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Amanda Chatel<\/p>\n

At some point, you reach an age where you can\u2019t possibly, even if you tried, give any less of a fuck. You\u2019re done with worrying about what others think, adhering to stupid-ass rules prescribed by stupid ass-people, and you realize who you want in your inner circle and who you want banished forever and ever. It\u2019s not that you\u2019ve become a cantankerous bitch in your older years, but just that you\u2019ve lived long enough to be fucking over pretty much everything. In other words, you simply have no more fucks to give.<\/p>\n

Are you to that point in your life? Have you been fortunate enough to have reached the ultimate status of having no more fucks to give? If so, then you\u2019ll know these 13 fucks you stop giving to be true.<\/p>\n

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  1. Giving a fuck about other people\u2019s opinions.<\/strong> Gah! Other people\u2019s opinions, especially when they\u2019re about you, should be moot once you\u2019ve become a grown woman. It\u2019s when you let the opinions of others dictate your life that your life becomes a cesspool of negativity and a total waste.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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    1. Giving a fuck about ridiculous fashion rules.<\/strong> No white after Labor Day? Fuck it. No horizontal stripes unless you\u2019re a size 0? Fuck that fucking shit. No bikini or mini-skirt after 30? In the immortal words of Bikini Kill, suck my left one. Seriously.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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      1. Giving a fuck about your ex.<\/strong> You broke up for a reason and that reason is probably somewhere between him being awful and him being the worst, so it\u2019s your job not to give any fucks about him or what he might think of you.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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        1. Giving a fuck about being polite in bed.<\/strong> As a grown ass woman, you\u2019re not just a walk-on in your bedroom, but the fucking star. If you don\u2019t get what you want and how you want it, you throw being polite out the window and woman-the-fuck-up about it.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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          1. Giving a fuck about biting your tongue.<\/strong> While in your earlier years some situations may have called for biting one\u2019s tongue, it\u2019s time to fuck that. If someone says or does something that pisses you off or disrespects you in any way, then speak up. Even if that person is your boss.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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            1. Giving a fuck about ending toxic relationships.<\/strong> Some people are bad for us! Some people, even if they\u2019re not cognizant of it, are horrific, toxic influences in our lives. You have no more fucks to give them or what your life will be like without them \u2013 it won\u2019t be a loss, that\u2019s for sure.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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              1. Giving a fuck about your mistakes.<\/strong> Your mistakes do not define you; they\u2019re merely pieces in your life that have made you who you are. That is all. Mistakes do not hold you back, do not open doors to judgment, or ruin your life. They\u2019re necessary obstacles and not only do you not give a fuck about them, but you\u2019re practically grateful for them.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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                1. Giving a fuck about fitting in.<\/strong> Some people spend their whole lives trying to fit in only to realize that those who want to belong are just fucking boring! Why would anyone want to be another sheep among millions of sheep? No thanks. Fly your freak flag and roll solo.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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                  1. Giving a fuck about social media.<\/strong> In some not so breaking new, social media is not real life. People \u201cliking\u201d your tweet or \u201cunfriending\u201d you on Facebook is not something to get your panties in a twist over. In other words? You have no fucks to give on this front.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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                    1. Giving a fuck about having the \u201cperfect\u201d body.<\/strong> You have the perfect body for YOU and that\u2019s all that matters. Now reach for those Doritos and order another pizza, for fuck\u2019s sake woman!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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                      1. Giving a fuck about status symbols.<\/strong> Owning a Louis Vuitton bag or only wearing Chanel makeup is not going to make you a better person. Also, who even knows if that mascara is Dior or fucking Maybelline?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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                        1. Giving a fuck about what you can\u2019t control.<\/strong> There will always be things that are out of your control, and when you quit giving a fuck about them you\u2019ll finally feel free.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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                          1. Giving a fuck about not giving a fuck.<\/strong> In life, you need to choose your battles. You need to decide what deserves your fucks and what doesn\u2019t. When you give a fuck, give it 150 percent, when you don\u2019t also give it 150 percent. You should never half-ass anything, especially your fucks.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                            \nDonna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife<\/em>.<\/a> She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE\u2122<\/a><\/p>\n

                            The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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