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This fall I went to the 60th<\/sup> birthday party of a very old and dear friend. Due to budget constraints, the venue was the back room of a very funky bar. The\u00a0refreshments consisted of pitchers of beer and sangria and scant little fried things. All in all, perfect for a college bash, but a bit strange for a room full of midlife women. Or so it seemed at first.<\/p>\n

The birthday Queen specified no gifts, but requested a song, instead. And her adoring guests complied. They brought songs alright, complete with costumes and creative props. The show was fabulous \u2014 touching and hilarious. And there was dancing. Lots of dancing. It was a really great celebration, rich in all the right components. I can\u2019t remember having so much simple down home fun at a party in a long time.<\/p>\n

After all, how many poo-poo foodie parties can you stand? You know the kind I mean. \u201cThis cheese is so special, only two cows in the whole world make it! And it only costs $46. a quarter of a pound.\u201d Pulease.<\/p>\n

One of my New Year resolutions is to entertain more this year. Not big parties, but intimate dinners with six or eight people who can be depended upon for fascinating conversation and true communion. I am craving old-fashioned one-pot suppers \u2014 soups, stews, casseroles, salads. Good bread. Good wine. Good talk. Good quality time.<\/p>\n

I remember my mother talking about the depression. It dashed her plans to go to college. Instead, she had to work in a fruit store. But she never complained about that. (Don\u2019t get me wrong, my mother was a world class complainer, but she never complained about the Great Depression.) She always said about those years, \u201cPeople stuck together then, and helped each other.\u201d And, \u201cWe knew how to have fun.\u201d<\/p>\n

With this New Year we enter a new era. The main challenge that we will face in these uncertain times is not the economy. Nor is it the unnerving and seemingly psychotic political scenarios being played out all around the world. Not to mention the grief that they create.<\/p>\n

Our challenge is to stay in our center, come what may. Our challenge is to breathe in the energy of the life force and to exhale respect, reverence and awe. Our challenge is to be unshakeable in our faith. To share our love. And to shine our spiritual light.<\/p>\n

This year may we discover and embrace our own purpose, passion and power.<\/p>\n

May we accept our responsibility and our rule. May we take our ideas and our skills and use them to create a viable, safe, sustainable and sane world for us all.<\/p>\n

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\nDonna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife<\/em>.<\/a> She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE\u2122<\/a><\/p>\n

The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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