{"id":1925,"date":"2015-12-09T06:00:47","date_gmt":"2015-12-09T11:00:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/?p=1925"},"modified":"2015-12-04T14:49:36","modified_gmt":"2015-12-04T19:49:36","slug":"midlife-crisis-or-midlife-consciousness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/2015\/12\/midlife-crisis-or-midlife-consciousness.html","title":{"rendered":"Midlife Crisis or Midlife Consciousness?"},"content":{"rendered":"

<\/del>Mid Life Crisis: What is it? Is it inevitable? Is it even a real phenomenon? Or is it an invention of the media \u2014 that is, corporate advertising trying to sell us things we don\u2019t need? (Not only do we not need these cosmetic and quasi-medical accoutrements, they are downright insulting and sometimes even dangerous.) <\/em>\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

I have been inundated lately by articles, poems, and stories about the so-called \u201cMidlife Crisis.\u201d Clearly it is a subject very much on the minds of many, many women. The writings that I have been sharing with you cover the gamut of opinions, ideas, and suggestions about coping with a Midlife Crisis, ours or someone else\u2019s. I offer them up to you to for your interest and edification.<\/em><\/p>\n

As always, I invite you to send me your stories \u2014 experiences, advice, and inspiration to share with our community of Midlife Queens. And special thanks to all oof you who have shared their ideas, research, and creativity with us.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0Midlife Crisis or Midlife Consciousness?\u00a0<\/em>You choose!<\/em><\/p>\n

xxQueen Mama Donna<\/p>\n

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Unfinished
\n<\/strong>By Suzanne Gravelle<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

Two years before my youngest child was ready to move from home, I started to make plans for myself and they were exciting plans. I was a single parent and had been for most of my 30 years of raising children and I was looking forward to being young and empty nesting. Oh the wonderful, fun, sexy life I was going to have!<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t think I would be single when I got to this age, I had the pretty picture of a loving relationship where the two of us would celebrate our freedom after surviving raising children. It was not that way and I was shocked! Time had slipped away.<\/p>\n

Now I was 50 years old, still single and coming through the most devastating, painful life transition imaginable\u2026to me. After all, it makes no difference<\/em> what has caused our pain, when it is happening to us it is hard to imagine anyone has hurt as much as we have.<\/p>\n

The impression friends and family had of me, was the woman who could fix anything, take care of everyone and did it well and I was that woman. There was no time not<\/em> to be that woman, plus who else would do it?<\/p>\n

Three years earlier when my world started to fall apart – I fell with it. I could not get myself back up off the floor and it was a shock to everyone around me including myself. Being a woman who liked to get all the obligatory things done so I can do what I wanted, suddenly being unable to do this was embarrassing to me. The feelings of unexplainable fear, self-doubt and insecurities quickly turned into self loathing because of all the other feelings. It was a vicious cycle that forced me to make drastic changes in my life if I would ever have control of my senses again. I wanted to do this quickly so I could get back to the fun sexy life I was looking forward to.<\/p>\n

The only way I could see my way clear to do this without involving my family and friends in my drama, was for me to leave. So I sold my home, put my important material stuff into storage, packed a few bags and drove away\u2026 alone. Seventeen months and 60,000km later and I have finally started to see and feel the results of my healing.<\/p>\n

I am still on this self-imposed exiled journey. During this time, I have spoken with so many people who wish they could pack it all in, run away and start over. But I warn them to, \u201cbe careful what you wish for\u201d because as we know, the Universe has a way of bringing to fruition what we dwell on, good or bad so make sure your thoughts and wishes are positive.<\/p>\n

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\nDonna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife<\/em>.<\/a> She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE\u2122<\/p>\n

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The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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