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On Finding Myself Middle Aged With No Role Model I Could Relate To Because I Am Not a Crone
\n<\/strong>We have outgrown our tenure as Maidens and as Mothers, yet old age no longer follows immediately after menopause, which is why so many midlife women don’t see ourselves (yet) as Crones. Where is the authentic archetype for us?<\/p>\n

Treading the Turbulent Midlife Waters
\n<\/strong>Aging and changing might be inevitable, but it isn’t easy. It precipitates in us a great uncertainty. The myriad dramatic disturbances of modern middle life \u2014 menopause, health concerns, the empty nest, divorce, death, and career shifts \u2014 create an overwhelming crisis of identity and purpose for us. What follows is an intense period of questioning absolutely everything \u2014 our goals and achievements, our priorities and our operating systems, our morals and our values, our fears and our fantasies.<\/p>\n

Embracing Her Majesty
\n<\/strong>When I started introducing the Queen in workshops and articles as a helpful archetype for midlife women, I received many requests for detailed instructions on how to become a Queen. “Dear Mama Donna,” women would write, “I want to be a Queen, too. How do I access my power? How can I feel good about myself? How do I change my life? How do I find magic and spiritual wisdom? How do I know what to do? How do I learn how to rule?”<\/p>\n

Sovereignty Ain’t Easy<\/strong>
\nThe roads leading to Queendom are diverse and many. The way to Self-esteem can be complicated and long. Each woman must take her own path, make her own trail, clear a passage for herself through the thick brambles that reach up to trip her. What roads do exist, are unmapped, bumpy, and full of potholes, tumbleweed, and road-kill. There are no shortcuts along the Queen’s Highway, no services, no shoulders, no signage, but many detours and cul-du-sacs. And the fare can be exorbitant.<\/p>\n

Empress Energy: Extending Our Influence Out Into the World
\n<\/strong>The Queen is a mature woman who has conquered the challenges in Her life and claimed Her own royal power. Now that She is firmly rooted in Her best Self and acting for Her own benefit, She is free to reach out in ever increasing concentric circles and offer Her compassion, expertise, time, and money to people and causes that call to Her sense of response-ability.<\/p>\n

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\nDonna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife<\/em>.<\/a> She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE\u2122<\/a><\/p>\n

The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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