{"id":1552,"date":"2014-11-05T06:00:44","date_gmt":"2014-11-05T11:00:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/?p=1552"},"modified":"2014-10-16T15:48:39","modified_gmt":"2014-10-16T19:48:39","slug":"two-declarations-of-self-esteem-by-queens-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/2014\/11\/two-declarations-of-self-esteem-by-queens-2.html","title":{"rendered":"Two Declarations of Self-Esteem By Queens"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>My Declaration of Self-Esteem<\/h3>\n<p>I AM ME<\/p>\n<p>In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me<br \/>\nEverything that comes out of me is authentically me<br \/>\nBecause I alone chose it &#8211; I own everything about me<br \/>\nMy body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,<br \/>\nWhether they be to others or to myself &#8211; I own my fantasies,<br \/>\nMy dreams, my hopes, my fears &#8211; I own all my triumphs and<br \/>\nSuccesses, all my failures and mistakes Because I own all of<br \/>\nMe, I can become intimately acquainted with me &#8211; by so doing<br \/>\nI can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts &#8211; I know<br \/>\nThere are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other<br \/>\nAspects that I do not know &#8211; but as long as I am<br \/>\nFriendly and loving to myself, I can courageously<br \/>\nAnd hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles<br \/>\nAnd for ways to find out more about me &#8211; However I<br \/>\nLook and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever<br \/>\nI think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically<br \/>\nMe &#8211; If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought<br \/>\nAnd felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is<br \/>\nUnfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that<br \/>\nWhich I discarded &#8211; I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do<br \/>\nI have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be<br \/>\nProductive to make sense and order out of the world of<br \/>\nPeople and things outside of me &#8211; I own me, and<br \/>\ntherefore I can engineer me &#8211; I am me and<\/p>\n<p>I AM OKAY<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.abacon.com\/famtherapy\/satir.html\" target=\"_blank\">Virginia Satir<\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3>Our Deepest Fear<\/h3>\n<p>Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.<br \/>\nIt is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.<br \/>\nWe ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?<br \/>\nActually, who are you not to be?<br \/>\nYou are a child of God.<br \/>\nYour playing small doesn&#8217;t serve the world.<br \/>\nThere&#8217;s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won&#8217;t feel insecure around you.<br \/>\nWe are all meant to shine, as children do.<br \/>\nWe are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.<br \/>\nIt&#8217;s not just in some of us, it&#8217;s in everyone.<br \/>\nAnd as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.marianne.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Marianne Williamson<\/a><br \/>\nFrom <em>A Return to Love<\/em><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>* ***<br \/>\nDonna Henes is the author of <a href=\"http:\/\/www.thequeenofmyself.com\"><em>The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife<\/em>.<\/a> She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. <a href=\"http:\/\/www.donnahenes.net\/queen\/consult.shtml\">Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE\u2122<\/a><\/p>\n<p>The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. 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