{"id":1494,"date":"2014-09-19T06:00:46","date_gmt":"2014-09-19T10:00:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/?p=1494"},"modified":"2014-09-12T15:14:39","modified_gmt":"2014-09-12T19:14:39","slug":"now-its-my-turn","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/2014\/09\/now-its-my-turn.html","title":{"rendered":"Now It’s Your Turn!"},"content":{"rendered":"

During the decades of our Maiden and Motherhood, women grow to meet all of our many demanding responsibilities. Lithe moon that can\u2019t keep getting fuller and fuller with no retreat, we can take on only so much before exploding like a balloon pumped up with too much air. In the second half of Her life, the Queen begins to wane, to contract, to pull in. She opens the air valve and releases what is not to Her benefit.<\/p>\n

When we reach our middle years we naturally pause and take stock of our lives \u2014 our career paths, our goals and aspirations, our sense of meaning and purpose. With our perspective of all of the changes and losses that we have seen and suffered, we come to realize that all we have left in our lives is time, and who knows how much of that remains?<\/p>\n

Therefore, the imperative to live fully, creatively, energetically, effectively and consciously consumes us. We begin to question \u2014 some of us for the first time ever in our good girl lives \u2014 all previous assumptions, rules, restrictions, addictions, predictions and predilections, which have ordered our existence. Our heart cries out for authenticity. Is the life that we are living the life that we would choose if we knew that we had only one life to live?<\/p>\n

\u201cWomen have to summon up courage to fulfill dormant dreams,\u201d writes Alice Walker. The Queen bursts forth from adversity and previous constraints, actual or imagined, to become a proficient player in the game plan of Her choice. When She operates from Her own inner guidance, She releases Her unique gifts and expressions, the sum of Her entire life experience to date, and allows them to ripen and come to fruition. And She recognizes and celebrates the physical, emotional and spiritual benefits of doing so.<\/p>\n

The Queen of Achievement, of Attainment, of Endurance, of Survival has experienced much during Her turns at Maiden and Motherhood. She has traveled to the ends of Her emotions, sometimes willingly, sometimes kicking and screaming. She has explored the depths of the pain and sorrow of the dark times in life as well as the joys and pleasures of the lightest moments, and has learned and integrated the lessons of each.<\/p>\n

She knows what She wants and knows She wants it now<\/em>. Her decisions might not make sense to Her friends and family, Her choices might shock and alarm them, but no amount of dissuasion can shake Her from Her resolve. Old doubts and concerns fade in the glaring light of Her determination.<\/p>\n

Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinions of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself.
\n<\/strong>-Katherine Mansfield<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\nDonna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife<\/em>.<\/a> She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE\u2122<\/a><\/p>\n

The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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