{"id":1068,"date":"2012-09-26T10:00:40","date_gmt":"2012-09-26T14:00:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/thequeenofmyself\/?p=1068"},"modified":"2012-09-19T14:00:19","modified_gmt":"2012-09-19T18:00:19","slug":"you-can-become-the-queen-of-your-self","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thequeenofmyself\/2012\/09\/you-can-become-the-queen-of-your-self.html","title":{"rendered":"You Can Become The Queen of Your Self"},"content":{"rendered":"

The idea that we might be Queens is intoxicating. Ever since I first started introducing The Queen as a helpful archetype for midlife women in my workshops and articles some eight years ago, I have received thousands of requests for detailed instructions on how to become a Queen. \u201cDear Mama Donna,\u201d women would write, \u201cI want to be a Queen, too. How do I access my power? How can I feel good about myself? How do I change my life? How do I find magic and spiritual wisdom? How do I know what to do? How do I learn how to rule?\u201d<\/p>\n

Indeed. How are women supposed to know how to own our own sovereignty? We certainly haven\u2019t been taught. World mythology abounds with inspiring examples of beautiful and adventurous Maidens, compassionate and nurturing Mothers (as well as some devouring ones) and wise and wily Crones. But shining examples of powerful midlife Queens are in short supply.<\/p>\n

There are no rules, no recipes, no prescriptions, no instruction manuals, no precise formulas to follow when it comes to pursuing the daunting process of Stepping into Sovereignty. This does not, however, mean that anything goes. Just as in life itself, everything counts. Every single solitary thing that we do or don\u2019t do, think or don\u2019t think, matters. This is the bottom line of our responsibility \u2014 to ourselves and to others.<\/p>\n

Our intentions have to be perfectly pure and our attention to the details of our process has to be focused and disciplined, and in exact alignment with our intentions. The quality of our engagement needs to be really right, not according to the standards of anyone else, but only according to our own inner truth.<\/p>\n

<\/strong>Although the Queen is an excellent role model and source of inspiration, we don\u2019t need a teacher or a guru to tell us what we should do for our Self-development, or how we need to change and grow. Each of us knows perfectly well what is right for us. Informed by the four parts of our being \u2014 physical, mental, emotional and spiritual \u2014 we know in our heart, our mind, our gut, and our soul when something is right, because it feels <\/em>right. And when something feels wrong, we certainly know that, too. The answers to our confusion and questions, our yearnings and longings, are right here inside of us where we keep them safe and warm.<\/p>\n

Our lessons, and our understanding of them, are often not immediately available or obvious to us. They often come encoded in signs and symbols that seem like a foreign language. But, no matter how difficult, it is up to us to access them, if we dare. If we care to earn our sovereignty, we must excavate the buried treasure of our own value and infinite worth. Our coming into power depends upon it.<\/p>\n

The caveat is that this thrilling post-menopausal period of vitality, renewed energy, enhanced self-esteem, optimism and enthusiasm only comes to us in direct proportion to the intensity of our own conscious and conscientious engagement in the process and consequences of our transformation.<\/p>\n

If we do take up the challenge to explore and mine the depths of our Selves, we will discover the unexpected caverns of courage, phosphorescent pools of passion and glittering, crystal-rich veins of gem-like wisdom running through their passages and crevices. All we need are the right tools to get at them, extract them, and polish them. And I don\u2019t know about you, but nobody ever told me that it was going to be easy.<\/p>\n

It always comes down to the same necessity: go deep enough and there is a bedrock of truth, however hard.<\/strong><\/p>\n

– May Sarton <\/strong><\/p>\n

<\/strong>*****<\/p>\n

Donna Henes is the author of The Queen of My Self: Stepping into Sovereignty in Midlife<\/em>.<\/a> She offers counseling and upbeat, practical and ceremonial guidance for individual women and groups who want to enjoy the fruits of an enriching, influential, purposeful, passionate, and powerful maturity. Consult the MIDLIFE MIDWIFE\u2122<\/a><\/p>\n

The Queen welcomes questions concerning all issues of interest to women in their mature years. Send your inquiries to thequeenofmyself@aol.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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