{"id":1058,"date":"2009-06-09T17:15:36","date_gmt":"2009-06-09T17:15:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/theirbadmother\/2009\/06\/the-fast-and-the-furious-a-birth-story.html"},"modified":"2009-06-09T17:15:36","modified_gmt":"2009-06-09T17:15:36","slug":"the-fast-and-the-furious-a-birth-story","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/theirbadmother\/2009\/06\/the-fast-and-the-furious-a-birth-story.html","title":{"rendered":"The Fast And The Furious: A Birth Story"},"content":{"rendered":"

This post is part of the online celebration of Baby Week, hosted by Discovery TV<\/a>. Because what better way to celebrate babies than to relive the terror<\/strike> miraculous experience of giving birth to them?<\/i><\/p>\n

It was the most awesome experience of my life. It was the most terrifying experience of my life, and it all started while I was eating a fajita.<\/p>\n

The first contraction hit at 7:46 pm. I know this, because I checked
\nthe time. I was pretty sure that it was just more false labor, but
\nstill. One always hopes. So I checked the time, and then went back to
\neating my fajita.<\/p>\n

Ten minutes later another contraction hit. Ow<\/span>, I said to no one in particular. That hurt<\/span>.<\/p>\n

Was that one different?<\/span> my husband asked. Is it time?<\/span><\/p>\n

Probably not. I’ll just wait and see.<\/span><\/p>\n

Eight minutes later I was doubled over. Emilia pulled out her doctor’s kit and held the stethoscope to my belly. Baby brother wants to come out now?<\/p>\n

I don’t know sweetie.<\/p>\n

<\/span>Husband: Should we go in?<\/p>\n

I don’t know. It might be another false alarm.<\/p>\n

<\/span>Husband: I think we should go in.
<\/span>
I don’t know. (*<\/span>doubles over*)
<\/span>
Husband: Seriously<\/span>.<\/p>\n

Fifteen
\nminutes later we were in the car, no thanks to me. I dawdled, even as
\nthe contractions sped up, reluctant to go in to the hospital and face another round of eye-rolling<\/a>
\nif these were, as I thought, just another bout of bad false
\ncontractions. My husband prodded and pushed until I relented and buckled into
\nthe passenger seat. We drove away at 8:26pm, just as another bad
\ncontraction hit.<\/p>\n

And then another.<\/p>\n

And another.<\/p>\n

We
\nwere barely fifteen minutes from home – and still probably some thirty
\nminutes from our downtown hospital – when it became apparent that
\nwhatever was happening was happening quickly. Very<\/span> quickly. Since we’d left home, the contractions had gone from eight minutes or so apart to barely a minute apart to not apart at all<\/span>. Kyle called 911; 911 patched him through to an ambulance; the ambulance advised that we pull off the highway and wait for them.<\/p>\n

Husband: Pull off and wait?<\/span><\/p>\n

(Me: GAAAAAR-OHMYGOD-GAAAAAR-NOTGOINGTOMAKEIT-GAAAAAR!!!<\/span>)<\/p>\n

(Emilia: WHAT’S MOMMY YELLING ‘BOUT DADDY?!<\/span>)<\/p>\n

Husband: I really don’t think we have time to stop and wait.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ambulance Dispatch: We can’t chase you down, sir.<\/span><\/p>\n

Husband: Then I’ll just keep driving.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mad
\nvehicular dashes to hospitals with women in labor are usually played
\nfor laughs on film and television. Let me tell you: there is nothing
\nfunny about racing toward a hospital that seems to recede ever further
\ninto the horizon as you speed forward in excruciating pain, your body
\ncompletely out of your control, medical disaster ever more imminent
\nwith every passing second. Even when the toddler in the back seat
\nstarts shouting MOMMY YOU NEED MEDICINE YOU NEED MY TOADSTOOL<\/a>?<\/span> it’s not funny. It’s stone-cold terrifying.<\/p>\n

And
\nwhen your body just starts bearing down and pushing and you cannot stop
\nit and then you’re still like ten minutes away from the hospital and
\nthe baby starts shoving its way out of your parts<\/span> and OMG YOU CAN FEEL IT COMING OUT?<\/span> Then? Your mind kind of snaps.<\/p>\n

(So
\ndoes the mind of your husband, who at this point is simultaneously
\ndriving a speeding vehicle with one hand on the horn and the other
\ntrying to feel for baby’s head between your legs while shouting into
\nhis phone-headpiece to someone at the ER that the baby’s coming the baby’s coming you need to be ready when we get there!<\/span>)*<\/p>\n

We
\narrived at the hospital at about 9:05pm. At the wrong entrance. Which
\nwas locked. Sufficient banging and the luck of some random guy
\nwandering through the lobby got us in, and much shouting from my husband
\nbrought the medical team that had been waiting for us running. I was
\nalready mid-delivery: the bag of waters was being involuntarily pushed
\nout – intact – and the baby was crowning. Eleven minutes later, at
\n9:16pm – after much horror-movie-worthy screaming – Jasper was out<\/a>.<\/p>\n

90
\nminutes from start to finish of active labor. Barely eleven minutes after
\nstepping out of the vehicle. Fourth degree tearing (borderline)
\nrequiring on-the-spot surgery which, you know, without epidural or
\nspinal anaesthesia or anything more significant than local anaesthetic
\nand an extra-strength Tylenol? Almost as hair-raising as the near
\nin-vehicle delivery. Almost<\/span>.<\/p>\n

It was terrifying. The most terrifying experience of my life, bar nothing.<\/p>\n

But still, still… after all that – there’s him<\/span><\/a>. Big and hale and hearty and a joy – an infinite joy – to behold. Worth any measure of terror, worth any measure of pain.<\/p>\n

And the best birthday present ever.<\/p>\n


Revised and adapted from an original post at Her Bad Mother<\/a>, 2008.<\/i> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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