{"id":79,"date":"2010-10-28T07:04:30","date_gmt":"2010-10-28T07:04:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/movingbeyondaddiction\/2010\/10\/in-the-stillness-answers-will-come-if-you-are-patient.html"},"modified":"2010-10-28T07:04:30","modified_gmt":"2010-10-28T07:04:30","slug":"in-the-stillness-answers-will-come-if-you-are-patient","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/thecelebritytherapist\/2010\/10\/in-the-stillness-answers-will-come-if-you-are-patient.html","title":{"rendered":"In The Stillness Answers Will Come If You Are Patient"},"content":{"rendered":"

 <\/span><\/b>Many of the exercises in my book The Law of Sobriety,<\/i> begin with sitting quietly for a few minutes
\nand just being still and breathing. Why is this so important? Because you have
\nto step out of your everyday life, quiet all the chatter in your head and open
\nyourself up to the honest, wise parts of you that whisper so softly that you
\ncan barely hear them.<\/span><\/p>\n

With the recent changes in my own life, as an effort to decrease and put to bed the inner chatter, I notice and acknowledge the chatter but I don’t let it take over.  I give it a label as just “chatter” and then I let it go.  Otherwise, I would be filled with anticipatory anxiety wondering will my loved one relapse again?  What if this person does relapse?  What will I do if this person relapses? etc. etc.  These thoughts just make me the recovery police which you know never works.<\/p>\n

            <\/span>Somewhere deep
\nwithin us, we all know what our truths are. We spend a lot of time and energy
\ndenying them, and sometimes we numb ourselves with an addiction to deny them.
\nBut our truths are never completely silenced. We need to stop using up all our
\nenergy trying to silence them, and instead, sit quietly and listen.<\/span><\/p>\n

            <\/span>Are you afraid
\nof what you will hear in that stillness? Don’t be. Some of our truths are ugly,
\nbut that’s never the whole truth. All of us have an innate wisdom–somehow,
\nsomewhere, we know what is really going on with us and we know what to do about
\nit. That’s why I say in the exercises in The<\/i>
\nLaw of Sobriety <\/i>that you can breathe
\nin the questions and breathe out the answers. In some part of you, you already
\nknow the answers.<\/span> I am discovering that even if I don’t find the answers right away, they will show up when they are ready to un-fold.  I can’t push the answers, but rather allow them to flow effortlessly without pushing them too soon.<\/p>\n

            <\/span>When you sit in
\nstillness, you let your breath carry your inner wisdom up from the depths and
\ninto your consciousness. You hear that quiet whisper. And when you do, I
\npromise, you will be surprised to find that you’re relieved to finally hear
\nwhat it has to say.<\/span><\/p>\n

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